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A simple google search of the phrase "we don't hate blacks" will pull up every sort of white organization that has their excuses as to why they are not in fact, racist. they point to news events or behaviors of black people. they say that they want to assist blacks in doing better. tel aviv, The Ku Klux Klan, the national Socialist movement, and many more. ALL claim to not be the promoters of Hate, and simply want freedom for (fill -n-the-blank)
How can we then, define what a hate group is? What is the tone? what are the actions such groups make? How do they react when harm is done to the targeted group?
According to the american Psychological Association, the effects are clear:
Hate crimes send messages to members of the victim’s group that they are unwelcome and unsafe in the community, victimizing the entire group and decreasing feelings of safety and security.vi,vii Furthermore, witnessing discrimination against one’s own group can lead to psychological distress and lower self-esteem.
Does the community of Ex-Jehovah's Witneses take actions that cause Jehovah's Witnesses to feel they are unwelcome or unsafe in the community?
Here is a behavior done by the Ex jw community leaders, where they enter the church and disrupt the lawful meetings of Jehovah's Witnesses
Hate Group Disguise themselves as Witnesses so as to disrupt the meeting
To show you an equal comparison, here is Russian police raiding a Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's Witnesses.
Russian Police disrupt a Jehovah's Witness Kingdom Hall


The Leaders of the hategroup justify their actions (which are illegal in many states in the usa) and actually call their behaviors "activism." Similar to the ku klux klan. However, unlike the ku klux klan, who march on streets after getting city permissions, the ex Jw's feel its ok to go into the church itself to disrupt people who they don't like in the first place. this would be equal to the Ku Klux Klan going inside a black church, and disrupting it.

Here is a direct statement of one of the leaders of the Ex-Jw hate groups..
The 4 of us team up in Scottsdale, AZ to speak out and spread awareness of the corruption of the Watchtower organization. The only way some of these people will ever hear of it is if we go into the lions den and say it. This was a very eventful KH crash, please click the links to the other versions so you can get the full crash. Tricia makes a powerful comment that no one can unhear. A ministerial servant and elder break the microphone from the mic stick in an attempt to stop Zeb from speaking unpleasant truths. A mother denying her love for her child, in front of her child. A women sitting isolated, disfellowshipped, from her loved ones in the back school. Elders assault Zeb and then lie to the police that they're being racially discriminated. An angry JW in a wheel chair succumbs to his rage. The police question us and then side with us activists.
Notice the comments about "an angry JW in a wheelchair!" So the person is claiming the person is in fact a JW becuse they are seen in the building? Are all people inside a Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's Witnesses, members? I for one know that's not true, because in my own hall are people that are not witnesses. Some were in Gangs! But lets say the person targeted and uploaded by the Ex-jw group is a witness. Is the end game, mocking wheel chair bound people? Why is he "angry" in the first place?
the comments by those on the video are all praises of course.

" Stacy BadAss Lopez! "
" Hi kingdumb hall Crashers, You all nailed it! Take care and thanks! "
" Each crash is better than the last getting more professional ,im sure i heard a song coming on like POLICE then stacy said DONT STAND SO CLOSE TO ME"
" these fellow freedom fighters are my real brothers. love you all! "

Jw Hate group advocates look on in praise of Jehovah's Witnesses having their services disrupted
I have no examples of klansmen disrupting a black church, because they wouldn't be that stupid.
However, I do have examples of White Supremacist members burning down black churches found here.

Black Hate group influenced man burns down black churches

Do the Ex jw community do similar acts of burning churches? Yes they do

Kingdom hall burned down in Washington. It would be the 5th such action
How did the Hate group members feel about such burnings? Total disregard! Instead, they continue with their justifications toward such actions. Here are some of the comments about such actions:
charlene joy1 year ago
They Jehovah Witness is a hate group that have mastered the art of paint myself pretty! The ATF and Sheriff and firefighters all good people must realize that they too like me will receive Eternal death according to the Watchtower and all their elders! I'm so sorry for the cloned publishers who have been taught what to think instead of how to think!"
" do you know the 8 men that Jehovah’s witnesses worship in governing body watchtower is protecting pedophiles and hiding child abuse victims with their 2witness rule policy. So much evidence is out there. “The Witnesses” on Oxygen youtube channel, “ Silent Lambs:Jehovah’s Witness & Child Abuse in NewZealand) on The Spinoff youtube channel JWFacts.com Also John Cedars youtube channel & exjw Critical Thinkers youtube channel. "
Darko Pranjic11 months ago
blessings
al carr1 week ago
Awesome, 👍 they destroy families with the double talk the preach
Mr. Wonderful1 week ago
I wanted to do this when I was 18 after they expelled me and told my Jehovah Witness family to never speak to me ever again and they haven't for over 45 years. The reason I didn't do it was I didn't want any firefighters to get hurt or die; I didn't want that on my conscience. Today I say, burn them all down without a conscience as long as no one gets injured. My Jehovah Witness parent's died without ever speaking or having a relation with me because of their rules; I will never see them again...BURN THEM DOWN!!!
(in response to this comes the following)
Coreena Boyer1 week ago
look up Jehovah's Witnesses Grand Jury. Lawsuits are brewing and they will soon get their day. There is hope yet for us EXJWs.
Lets place this in perspective. If someone even threatened to burn down a Jewish place of worship, what happens?
We don't have to wonder. Such one's are quickly thrown in jail. and labeled as being fueled by hate groups. In comparison, how do the members found on the Anti witness Hate group "watch-tower.net" feel about threatening to burn down halls?
Due to the COVID19 issue, Jehovah's Witnesses opted to use a video conference site called "Zoom" even before the country started making such church assemblies banned across the country. Members of the hate site quickly found this as a reason to attack the empty buildings. This member, has changed his original name to "1234" Soon after making this post:
Think of the possibilities, if this technology is all they have to stay in touch with their minions think of the wonderful possibilities....
  1. Think of what just one molotov cocktail or flame thrower could do to their broadcasting room and the "world wide work."
  2. Or better yet if "V" (for vendetta) hacked into their broadcasting system...and told them the real truth.
  3. Just one rogue Bethelite could have all kinds of fun....
I can dream can't I....
The website also shows how openly evil the comments can get when in a Pro Hate environment. Here are the pro arson comments made by the main hub where most of the exJw members reside, in regards the fires. On this site, they are able to use false names, and hide. Similar to hoods worn on Klan members.
Reverting back to the American Psychological Association, what leads to hate crimes? the answer is very interesting. It also is very similar to what we see among the ExJW community.
What Leads to Hate Crimes?
Hate crimes are an extreme form of prejudice, made more likely in the context of social and political change. Public and political discourse may devalue members of unfamiliar groups,ix and offenders may feel that their livelihood or way of life is threatened by demographic changes.x Offenders may not be motivated by hate, but rather by fear, ignorance or anger. These can lead to dehumanization of unfamiliar groups and to targeted aggression.
the main claims of the Hate groups is to spread the idea that Jehovah's Witnesses ruin families, and are not good for the country at large. When they suffer, human lives are devalued.

the "fame" of having people follow you on youtube, is not only psychologically addicting, but it also makes you money, if you have a book to hawk. The Hate group members of the Exjw community are passing money to one another, avoiding the tax issue, and selling all sorts of hate branded shirts and cups.
Look at the comment by one leader of the ExJW hate group, "Stacy Lopez"
To all my viewers, I love you and you are great! To all my haters, zero fucks given. My main concern is bringing light to the corruption of the watchtower organization. You cant stop us.
Stacy Lopez on the left. Tricia on the right. Both are part of the LGBT community as well as leaders of the Hategroups of Jehovahs Witnesses
Ironically, with the last name "Lopez" living in the border-wall rhetoric of the Donald trump administration, one would think she would be far removed from the idea of leading people towards hatred, and attack of anyone!
Further proof that the ExJw Community, which is tied by the website "JWfacts" and "[jehovahs-witness.](https://jehovahs-witness.net)com" can be seen by the Wiki page on the defining of Hate groups.
Here is it's definition of how hate groups emerge in the digital age:
Internet hate groups[edit]
Traditionally, hate groups recruited members and spread extremist messages by word of mouth, or through the distribution of flyers) and pamphlets. In contrast, the Internet allows hate group members from all over the world to engage in real-time conversations.[40] The Internet has been a boon for hate groups in terms of promotion, recruitment and expansion of their base to include younger audiences.[41] An Internet hate group does not have to be part of a traditional faction such as the Ku Klux Klan.[42]
While many hate sites are explicitly antagonistic or violent, others may appear patriotic or benign, and this façade may contribute to the appeal of the groups.[43] Hate group websites work towards the following goals: to educate group members and the public, to encourage participation, to claim a divine calling and privilege, and to accuse out-groups (e.g. the government or the media). Groups that work effectively towards these goals via an online presence tend to strengthen their sense of identity, decrease the threat levels from out-groups, and recruit more new members.

WHO IS "[Jehovahs-witness.com**](https://Jehovahs-witness.com)"** anyhow?
Simon green started the hate site in 2000. Simon, a computer savvy person, was running a now defunct business called "Intesoft IT LTD" located at 46 Ronald Avenue Llandudno Junction Gwynedd LL31 9EY from sept 4th, 1997.
Simon and his wife, Angharad Green (married in 1995), quickly ran it out of business. He also hosted a site called "pokechat.com" which is also defunct. It was a site where pokemon players could get together. Yet Jehovah's Witnesses are not really very pro Pokemon. Ironically, many non Jehovahs Witnesses feel Pokemon was a demonic influence. However, when green made the site, he claims to have been one of Jehovah's Witnesses during that period.
the other site he ran was yet another message board called "JWTRUTH" (a precursor to [Jehovah-witness.com](https://Jehovah-witness.com)) and its mission statement sounded very similar to those described by wikipedia as the mission statements of a hategroup.
Hello and welcome to JWTruth.com! The aim of this site is to expose "The Truth" about Jehovah's Witnesses and the WatchTower, Bible & Tract Society. There is a lot of information that they would prefer you didn't read and facts that they try to cover up. If you are a JW who is having doubts about your religion or if you have a friend or relative who is considering becoming a Jehovahs Witness then please take a few minutes to examine some of the articles on this site - you could save you and your family a lifetime of despair!
Simon and Angharad (who is ten years younger than Simon) have tried many varied things to make businesses. Nothing wrong with that. Here is Angharad's site, hosted by Simon, Thread bare..

Angharad Green 44 yrs old as of 2020

Simon Green 54 years old as of 2020
the ironic thing is, Angharad's site is full of Christmas offerings and angels on wing, and things of that nature. Typically, an ex-Jehovah's Witness will engage in party events like christmas or even Halloween, but suddenly being the sort that runs around selling angel children playing harps? that's already a rare person indeed, let alone a former witness. Simon is an admitted atheist. Turning away from all religion is far more the normal behavior of someone angry about their past faith. So this begs to reason, is Simon actually with his original wife that was one of Jehovahs Witnesses?
Simon's brother Ian, nor his mother are Jehovah's Witnesses, and don't look to have ever been such.
Neither does his other family members, Rachel, Dylan, Leah or Gaynor. However, "Rachel and Leah" are biblical names, wives of Issac, which is also a name of one of his family members. Grandson of Lizzy. Perhaps Simon is nothing more than a son of a real witness? However the case, Lizzy, a senior citizen, called Simon, Mentally ill, in need of medication. Saying he goes "batshit" without medication.
In fact, when Dennis Green Died, Simon was nowhere to be found in giving his condolences. For someone claiming to have been "shunned" by Jehovah's Witness family, I dont see that family anywhere. Could this just be another money scheme to make a popular website on the part of the profit maker, Simon Green?
At any rate, a Hate group is a hate group. When participating in such a group, always fact-check the man whose making the statement. And most importantly, what drives him and why he says what he says.

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Author THEMICISBACK
Posted On Fri Apr 10 22:36:37 UTC 2020
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Not "specific people"...its public HATE GROUP LEADERS. They are fair fame as much as the GB are to the followers of "john cedars"
If you can't deal with that, you don't have to.
2nd. Obviously you didnt read anything within the OP.
3rd. "Full of rage?" Then how do you define being out of a religion for a whopping 20 years and still running around joining hate groups and bashing people?
LIKE BROUGHT OUT IN THE OP THAT YOU DIDNT READ.. the American psychological association's definition of what a hate group would constitute fits the "vast apostate army" and its leader, the followers of Lloyd Evans, The followers of Barbara Anderson, and Paul Grundy.
And like a white supremacist, you are here looking to they to attack the messenger instead of the message.
Reminds me of when Oprah Winfrey would interview Klan members. They would spend the whole hour calling her racist names instead of responding to her discussion in some forward way.
Thus far, you have claimed I am "full of rage". But whose the organization burning down kingdom halls, disrupting church services, harboring arsonists and sexual assault, as well as mocking old people.in wheel chairs?
Let me add that Simon green, has clearly never been one of jehovahs witnesses. His site is yet another money grab. His mom, brothers and other family members clearly have little to no witness training what so ever.
So if you "don't care what witnesses do" one way or the other, why are you at all worried about my calling the ex jw organizations, "hate groups?"
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Author Latexsucks
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Not sure where you're getting at here. There are crazy people everywhere but the borg is by far much more damaging to it's members than any crazy ex-jw "activist" will ever be.
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Author Latexsucks
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Dude, you seem to have so much rage inside you. I been out of the borg 20 years, and it was the best thing I ever did. Are you a JW? Are you trying to have a go at ex-jw groups? That's what I mean when I say I'm not sure what you're getting at. You seem to be targeting specific people and not looking outside the box. Don't take it personal, I couldn't care less what happens inside or outside that stupid cult.
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I follow ex-jw on Reddit because I am interested in knowing how others deal with the consequences of being raised in a cult. I get sad at the shunning stories and all the brainwashing. I have never taken any "activist" action and try to stay away from lengthy discussions on social platforms. The way I was raised still affects me in ways that I don't understand and I refuse to take therapy because I don't think it will help me. That being said, I don't visit any "apostate" nor jw websites with the intent of knowing what's going on or fight back. I simply don't care enough and am trying to focus on my life. My parents are still in the borg, which forces me to sometimes discuss religious non-sense but I learned to quickly change subjects. In fact, I moved country to release myself from all of it and I'm very happy to say that ever since I managed to get my parents to keep a healthy, positive relationship with me, despite our differing religious ideologies. I did not even know that there are people that you identify as leaders of the ex-jw. The ex-jw reddit community are a group of people that share the same common problem: they suffered at the hands of a despicable organization who destroyed their way of life and families, with lifelong repercussions. If you are still in, and you think it's good for you, I can only be happy that you feel happy. However, the posts you make seem to reflect your anger towards those that are outside the borg, somehow showing that you want to fight back at them, the same way they fight the borg. Again, if there is some ex-jw that is burning down halls, shame on him. On the other hand, elders trying to brainwash my parents to not talk to me anymore? Shame on them. Finally, you have to take reddit with a pinch of salt. I never tried to insult you. I don't follow anyone but myself. I studied a lot of religious movements after leaving the borg and the conclusion is simple: all religion is non-sense; all and every form of it. God, in any version presented, does not exist. If anything greater than us does exist, whatever it is, we can't understand it yet. If the post was intended to uncover those that would personally want to protect the individuals you mention, then my reply was a mistake. I don't even know who those people are. I now realise that OP is an angry jw trying to fight back the apostates. It's as sad as the shunning stories on ex-jw. Anyway, be happy my friend, that is the only thing you have to do in life, for your own good. This is by far the longest post I wrote on social media. Shame on me.
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So wait, if I am a russian witness, is it "fear and paranoia!?" A "Persecution complex?" the first guy to claim someone else has a "persecution complex" is the one doing the persecution! LOL
" Do the actions of a few represent the viewpoints of the whole? "
There isnt an exjw around, in any of the hate groups they participate in, that do not employ the exact same thing! LOL

Here is one of your "fearless leaders" of the 2nd largest Hate groups of Jehovahs Witnesses. at the 4:40 mark he claims he doesnt like the russians banning and torturing the jws, , not because of the humanitarian fact of it all, but because it "bolsters the teaching that satan is coming after them" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hP5_eO7KehU&list=PLEDoNu6mIiWKgD4RtqT97CuVIDgsMyvj1&index=103
In other words, "dont persecute them, because they will simply become stronger, and show how the bible said such a thing would happen!" LOL And to marginalize the reality of the attacks happening, he calls it "fear and paranoia"
So wait, if I am a russian witness, is it "fear and paranoia!?" A "Persecution complex?" the first guy to claim someone else has a "persecution complex" is the one doing the persecution! LOL And since that man brought up the term "persecution complex" lets look into the origin of that ridiculous term.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christian_persecution_complex
the woman who made the term is an anti-religious white woman, Candida Moss a woman no better than "john cedars" is, claiming to be the brains of christianity, by mocking and insulting whatever she can, all while hawking books to atheists. A woman who had a failed marriage, and remarried again using okCupid website! Raised by religious people, and pitching a crybaby fit, like Lloyd does.
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/08/fashion/weddings/candida-moss-justin-foa.html

Unfortunate for you, I plan on using "critical thinking" upon your hate group leader just as much as you want others to use against Jehovah Witnesses.
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Author FLEXJW
Posted On Fri Apr 10 16:55:44 UTC 2020
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Do the actions of a few represent the viewpoints of the whole? Are all Muslims jihadist terrorists? You seem to be painting with broad strokes an entire group of people by the actions of a few.
Are the actions listed above directed at individual people or at a governmentally recognized organization called the watchtower? I don’t support or condone invading JW meetings or burning down of Kingdom Halls, but I also feel you are intentionally trying to apply bias to all exJWs.
You have a lot of evidence to provide to make a case that all or even a majority of people who used to be JW are a hate group. Perhaps start a poll at the exjw subreddit asking how many have actively participated in the above actions or how many have gone out of their way to make JWs feel unwelcome in a community.
The man who started one of many many exJW websites and his relationship and business history is irrelevant to your topic here. If it was relevant to the actions of any current exJWs, many of which who don’t even know who Simon is, then the same could be said about JWs and the beliefs and actions of the founders of their religion which they have since denounced.
In your opinion, what would be the most effective way for any person to raise awareness of the unethical practices of the Watchtower to both current JWs and those who know little or nothing about JWs?
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Author jovie2
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you "god doesnt exist" as a result of your personal gripe with jehovahs witnesses is 100% illogical. you claim not to follow others, but youre in the exjw hategroup! LOL Sounds more like "I cant have my way" crybaby rhetoric.

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Author THEMICISBACK
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You seem to not be able to even comment without insult. That right there shows you the sort of learned hate fuels rhetoric hate group members do. They also dogpile, and no doubt you have ran back to your herd for support.
Regarding "I'm not sure what you're getting at"..its a lie all together. For if you didn't know what I was "getting at" there would be no need to say what you said.
If youre planning on interacting with me, you will find I am fully aware on the common behaviors of hate group members.
Lastly, you, like any skinhead or Klansman, attribute GREAT POWER and call for FEAR of your targeted group. Just as wiki said your kind do. Because it is in fact illogical to say that a faith that is as small at jws can EVER mathematically be "far worse" than all others (that's what you're claiming)
Do not attempt to bore me with fished and sorted "news" about Australia, or a hand full of "#metoo" sensationalized claims of abuse, 30 years after the fact. I see not just they, but all #metoo claims as money grabs. For no one ever goes after some guy with no job or assets to sell. They seem to only recall events that include those that stand to make them millions. And yes feel free to repost what I just said about #metoo to as many lesbian atheist women you want to. No doubts that you're surrounded by they and more while participating in your hate group.
No, I do not believe any woman oran, should be believed 30 years later, claiming they were afraid, after decades of rich and powerful men being arrested or jailed for sexual assault. From celebs like Michael Jackson, to president Clinton.
So no, its all a money grab. All of them. Your hate group likes to claim how as youths you were "good little witnesses" not having sex and doing what "the Borg" told you. Well this would have included not having sex, I don't care WHO told u it was ok. Elder or not.
Is this blaming the victim? If the person was a teen? Yes..yes I am. If a court of law will convict a teen for gang, drug, or murder offenses as an adult? Then so too the teen having sex that doesn't fight back. If the claim is "grooming" then the same could be said of the lgbt community entering grade schools making gay straight alliance clubs. Please let Tricia know I said that. I'm sure she will be more than pleased, as it will bring her more clicks, and likes and followers.
So did the issue with sexual assault and "smurf gurl" get resolved? Or are the exjw community still covering up that sexual assault among its leaders?
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2020.01.28 23:49 FurkanE17 GOTY candidate emerges + 10 other completions [January Report '20]

This is my fourth year on this sub and fifth year overall that I'm tracking my completions and I've rarely been as excited to play games as I am right now. School is going great, my backlog is full of great games and Cyberpunk 2077 will be out soon looks like we'll be waiting a few more months for this. Thus, I had the motivation to play and beat many games this month, the most since January 2018 (!) actually. Let's get into my first progress report of 2020 :)
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Games I've Quit - 19
Woah, what happened here? Let's unpack this.
Borderlands: The Pre-Sequel is a game I did not even start playing. I did finish the original and gave the sequel two tries before giving up both times. The gameplay loop really bothers me because you get guns that do barely any damage and you end up dying 10 times during each boss fight, which kind of takes away from the excitement that boss fights should provide in my opinion. So I doubt this'll be for me either.
The 50th Metroidvania that I've quit is Castlevania: Lords of Shadow: Mirror of Fate. I really have a hard time enjoying these. I didn't like the story. The gameplay is God of War (the original) but in boring. The enemies suck. The level design is not fun, with all that backtracking (especially in Act II). Yeah, that's a No for me.
I've quit Crysis 2 for the same reason that I've quit the original. The only thing I'm impressed by are the graphics. The nanosuit is just a gimmick in my opinion. It allows you to go invisible, to reduce damage, to sprint very fast and to scan an area for enemies. With the nanosuit, this game at least gives a reasoning for why your character can do those things but I'm not at all impressed by it. The shooting is boring. The enemies glitch out more times than I can count, there are so many "cheap deaths" and the checkpoint system is trash. Yeah, not a Crysis fan.
I also didn't start Darksiders III. I didn't like the original, so I removed Darksiders II back in the day. I have the third iteration through PS+. Based on reviews, some videos and my disinterest in the series, I ultimately don't want to play this.
One game I was looking to spend a bunch of time on this year was Divinity: Original Sin. Shockingly, I was very disappointed by this game. The soundtrack immediately felt very out of place (is it just me?) and not really fitting the setting. The fact that you were forced to have two user controlled characters kind of annoyed me as well because you basically needed to deal with inventory management TWICE, which isn't something I really enjoy doing (I didn't find a way to only create one char). Didn't really have the same feeling playing this game as with other cRPGs.
This is the second time I have put Dragon's Dogma: Dark Arisen on this list but I had to be honest with my self here. I didn't like it that much during my first try, which was about three years ago. So don't feel like pouring 50 hours into this.
I started Gears 5 in coop with my brother. We were immediately put off by the bad humor, boring and bland shooting gameplay and a story that we didn't really care for, because, to be fair to the series, we hadn't played another game in the series previously. Still, I doubt I would have gotten through a single game in this series with all those terrible one-liners. But I won't say that the production values in this game is great, it's evident that this is a bid-budget game, at least I think so.
I've tried God Eater Resurrection and it felt like the game was way older than it is (released in 2010). Terrible mission design, bad graphics, technically very limited (maybe due to being originally released on PSP), meh soundtrack and trash combat. Didn't even try God Eater 2: Rage Burst but might give the newer release a try, if I get it for free.
Insurgency is actually a multiplayer shooter and I mixed this game up with Invisible Inc. for some reason :D Nothing to see here.
I saw some gameplay on Prototype 2 and after removing and adding it to my backlog two times already, I will now permanently remove it. I don't like starting with sequels anyway and the game seems to have aged poorly.
Red Faction Guerilla Re-Mars-Tered is another game that I didn't even start but just based on gameplay videos I could tell that I wouldn't have fun with this.
Saints Row: Gat out of Hell. Another case of "don't actually own it". I remember it being free through PS+ but looks like neither I nor my brother got it back then.
Snake Pass. Man. Terrible controls. This could have been ultra relaxing but the controls were so infuriating that they made me quit an hour or so into it.
I've only played the first game in the Spyro Reignited Trilogy but that's just not for me. No nostalgia attached to the series.
I've tried The End is Nigh and some how made it past that poor intro and 15 not so poor levels before deciding that this is the type of platformer that isn't really worth my time.
This one I'm truly sorry for because I think The Talos Principle explores very interesting elements about AI and if they should be considered conscious beings. There is this one funny archived chat on a computer where four guys argue about how one can determine, if a user is actually an AI or real. Person A says that no one can tell the difference, while Person B tells A that he is stupid. Person C agrees with Person B and says that Persona A is a troll. Then Person D tells Person C that Person B is actually an AI :D. Best plot twist of the year, folks.) And I think I did quite well with a lot of puzzles in World A and most of World B. But then puzzles get more complex and I never have the patience to spend one hour on one puzzle (same with The Witness) and so I give up. Yeah..
Hope you can all appreciate me trying to explain why I didn't beat this games, in case you are fans of any of them. This month could be called "The Cleansing of the Backlog" just based on all of these abandoned games. Suffice to say, February won't look like this. If it does, I might run out of games. And soon.
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Games I’ve Added – 4
I got my hands on Xbox Game Pass for 1 €. It was supposed to be for three months but for some reason my Microsoft account says it expires in June. I guess it gave me 6 months and I won't complain.
Unfortunately, you already know my thoughts on two games I got via Game Pass: Castlevania: Lords of Shadow: Mirror of Fate and Gears 5. Glad I didn't buy these two.
My Friend Pedro is the only one of these games that you will find in the "Beaten" section (and it's a good game imo).
My last addition for the month is Overcooked 2, which I've been playing in coop with my brother and it's been extremely enjoyable so far. First Battle Chef Brigade, now this. I might be a fan of cooking games :O.
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Games I've Beaten - 11
A quick overview of all the games I've beaten this month. Reviews are in alphabetical order. (Bold = Game of the Month)

Blair Witch
Owned Since: December 31st, 2019
Beaten: January 2nd
Platform: Xbox One
Playtime: 6 hours
You will see a lot more Xbox One games on my completions this year. It all starts here, with Blair Witch being my first Xbox completion since Mass Effect on March, 2019. I've played this with my brother because we couldn't find a coop game we agreed on. We did have a horror game itch though, so we chose this. The game was released in 2019.
I watched the recent Blair Witch (2016) movie a couple months ago and actually fell asleep, which is a new horror movie low for me. Suffice to say, I didn't really enjoy it. That might be why I didn't see any connections between game and movie but I doubt that would have made a difference.
You play as Ellis, a veteran and former police officer, who suffers from PTSD after his experiences during his time in the army. Ellis joins a search for a little boy (Peter) who was lost in the woods, possible having been kidnapped. Ellis killed the kid's brother by accident when he tried to stop a robbery, so he feels like he owes this to Peter. He constantly communicates with others involved in the search and also with his wife, Jess. Their relationship is struggling due to Ellis' mental health issues, which is portrayed through many flashbacks throughout the game.
Ellis is joined by his dog, Bullet, who helps Ellis find objects, guides him through the woods and also relaxes Ellis, whose symptoms worsen when he is left alone. I actually loved Bullet, he is helpful and not just a nuisance. He also has his own "back story" as well, so it's not just a cute gimmick or anything. Talking about back story, Ellis' personal struggles are also interesting to a degree and at least don't deter you from continuing the game.
His relationship with Jess also helps in his character development, though one thing I disliked was this: You have a phone, so the game sometimes allows you to call Jess and have a conversation with her. Sometimes, this happens automatically. But man, these convos are so pointless and annoying. Especially when they happen automatically. Call 1: "I'm sorry Jess, I love you, you know that, right?", Call 2: "Fuck you, Jess, I'm angry now!", Call 3: "I'm sorry Jess, I love you <3!". And on and on it goes. I know that Ellis is very anxious and a very stressed individual due to his past traumas but this happened too much and most of the time, they would just discuss uninteresting topics that really didn't add anything to the game's story or at least not in a sense that it made you more interested in their relationship. And, you know, this is a "Blair Witch" game. It's not "Ellis: The Story", so I would've liked less focus on Ellis' relationship with Jess and more focus on the actual IP.
The overall plot is fine but I won't say much more on that. One gameplay feature that I actually liked is that you can change your surroundings thanks to cassette tapes. Each tape is a short clip about what happened in the past. One of them for example is about the kidnapped boy, who drops a ball in the clip. If you stop at that right moment, the ball will reappear where he dropped it. You can let the dog smell the ball and track the scent. Really cool feature and added a unique element to the game.
One final point: The final chapter, my god, that one took fucking ages. The boy is brought to a little house with a few rooms. I thought that yeah, some f'd up things will happen eventually and you might have to go through each room a couple times. But it ends up being this crazy episode where you get jump scared 50 times, enter 800 doors, sneak past the demon 20 times etc. They really made more than the most out of that little house because you easily walked 50km in there before the credits finally started rolling. And after all that, the ending was shit.
Rating: 5/10

Detroit: Become Human
Owned Since: July 2nd, 2019
Beaten: January 7th
Platform: Playstation 4
Playtime: 15 hours
Wow. This is one of those games were I felt empty inside for a day or two after beating it. That might have something to do with the ending I got but the overall journey definitely had something to do with it as well.
The three characters you play - Marcus, Kara and Connor - all have their own interesting stories, which, as the game progresses, become more and more intertwined (as usual with David Cage's games). All three were played excellently in my opinion. The graphics, the atmosphere, the music and all the side characters even were all major positives in this games. And the best part about this game: Your choices matter.
I've never seen a game with this many choices and so many of them having so much weight. I'm serious when I say that main and side characters can die at so many different points in the game based on what you choose to do. After each chapter, something like a "choice tree" pops up, which basically highlights your choices within the chapter. Just by taking a look at this window, you realize you can play each chapter in so many different ways. You also get points for each choice you make, which you can use to unlock extras. These can be the soundtrack, art works, trailers and other videos, interviews with the cast and more. This is pretty cool in my opinion.
One thing about the gameplay. The game sometimes asks you to do mundane tasks like "wash dishes" or "clean tables". I didn't like these parts from a gameplay perspective but I understand how these tasks are supposed to show you how Androids "live". QTEs are very present throughout the game as well and.. yeah, you'll either like those or not. The best parts are definitely the decisions you get to make and when you can walk around an area and just look at all the highlighted items.
I won't get into the story too much but I can say this. I really liked it overall but I still don't know what I think about the whole "Androids are people" storyline. You see them crying, having relationships, feeling any kind of emotion, arguing and all that. They are supposed to be sentient Androids, sure, but making them act exactly like humans kind of felt too much. Maybe that's because rogue AI is still something that is way too far into the future for me to really believe in. Still, if you look past this point, you will find an intricate, exciting and emotional story around it that managed to draw me in completely. I of course tried to keep everyone alive (main and side characters) but three people in total didn't make it in my playthrough.
There is also one chapter called Freedom March. The scene is pretty epic and powerful in my opinion, especially if you can look past the point that I mentioned in the paragraph above. I'll definitely play this game again with a friend or family member, if they're interested, because they will 100% make different choices and I'd like to see how they experience the story as well. Great concept, great execution, hope to see more games like this from David Cage.
Rating: 8/10

Half-Life 2
Owned Since: November 23rd, 2016
"Beaten": January 3rd
Platform: PC
Playtime: 10.5 hours
I've played the original Half-Life when I was in Brighton for 6 weeks and doing an internship (I'm from Germany and my employer allowed me to do it, best experience ever). I only had my laptop available , which is not suitable for playing games, so I had to play graphically less demanding ones, like System Shock, Shantae and the Pirates Curse, CUPID and Half-Life. Half-Life was easily my favorite out of the bunch, because the game aged relatively well and the level design is solid.
That was back in 2017. So playing Half-Life 2 was a long time coming and I'm glad I finally did. This game is absolutely incredible. The jump from the original, especially in terms of graphics and even level design, is crazy. Each chapter drops you into a different environment with different challenges to overcome. In one chapter, you have to drive an "airboat", in another you drive a car because Antlions come out of the sand and only allow you to pass with a vehicle. Then there is Ravenholm, where you jump from roof to roof in the dark, while monsters jump at you from everywhere (scariest level ever).
What I loved about this game and it's something that (almost) no current games do anymore, especially not at that level, is that there are no cut scenes that interrupt you, when something major happens in the game. Everything happens within the flow of your playthrough. There is this robot dog that will jump around and throw cars at enemies, there are gigantic striders that come out of nowhere and shoot at everything they see and there is nothing that interrupts you, while you play. This game is just such an amazing experience throughout that I was just blown away throughout. The game keeps throwing stuff at you, especially in the first half, and manages to keep the gameplay fresh throughout, which, for a game from 2004, is ridiculously impressive.
The game mostly uses similar weapons as in the original, though I believe the crossbow and something else I won't mention are both new. And also there is the gravity gun of course, which is a weapon that you can use for basically everything. It lets you pick up items, throw them at enemies and it even lets you pick up enemies and throw THEM at enemies. You need to use it many times to progress through a level and I was always glad to. Just a fun weapon to use.
And then there is the G-Man. I don't really get the story much unfortunately but the G-Man is supposed to be a mystery anyway. One of the cool features in this game are the G-Man easter eggs. In almost every chapter, you can see the G-Man in the distance just walking away. I didn't know this before playing but once there was this train that crashed into a wall. There was a little hole which you could look through and I for some reason decided to do that and saw the G-Man. This spotting is accompanied by mysterious sounds and it actually startled me a little bit. The G-Man is definitely badass.
Now some negatives. The voice acting is poor (though I played it in German). The characters are not that memorable. The story isn't really all that well told in my opinion, though that might be one of the negatives, if you don't have any cut scenes in your game. I'd rather have seamless gameplay as I explained above rather than cut scenes that don't tell much anyway but the combination of both (e.g. God of War) is something I'd obviously prefer.
Still, I definitely understand why this game is considered the best game ever. I do think we should seperate games by the generation that they came out in because each gen produced very different games but the fact that Half-Life 2 still amazed me 15 years after its release says something about this game's quality.
Rating: 9/10

Half-Life 2: Episode One
Owned Since: November 23rd, 2016
Beaten: January 21st
Platform: PC
Playtime: 2 1/2 hours
More of the same as Half-Life 2. I switched to English audio and it made a big difference. I don't know, if that was the sole reason or if the game did a better job with Alyx, but her character got ten times more interesting and endearing than in Half-Life 2. Also, Dog is great.
The game is obviously much shorter and the level design is either similar to or more simplified than the chapters in Half-Life 2. Also, Alyx is following you around for way longer than in the "main game" (I guess that's what H-L 2 is), so that opened up a few different puzzles that involve Alyx, who can open doors and manipulate rollermines, among other things.
Not much else to say here, the game advances the story nicely and I'm already dreading the finale of Episode Two, which will undoubtedly end on a cliffhanger.
Rating: 7/10

Half-Life 2: Lost Coast
Owned Since: November 23rd, 2016
Beaten: January 1st
Platform: PC
Playtime: 15 minutes
This is a tech demo apparently. I've played it, so I'll add it here but I don't have much to say about this.
Rating: No Rating

Marvel's Spider-Man
Owned Since: December 31st, 2019
Beaten: January 18th
Platform: Playstation 4
Playtime: 30 hours
This is one of those games where my review won't do it justice. First off, I got 100 % of the trophies. This is maybe the fifth game ever that I fully completed (and I've actually done it with another game this month, that one being not quite as impressive). That should tell you what I think about this game.
As usual, here is my backstory with the Spider-Man franchise: I've watched the first movie with Tobey Maguire about 40 times as a kid. Spider-Man was my hero. Yet, I only watched Spider-Man 2 and 3 once or twice and have never gotten to watch the newer releases because I kind of forgot about Spider-Man and superheroes in general.
After starting this game, I rewatched the original Spider-Man and let me tell you, the nostalgia was real. Anyway, about the game:
The game references a ton of stuff from the comics I'm guessing (didn't read any of the comics) but I understood a few references here and there thanks to the original trilogy and just the soundtrack of this game got me feeling very nostalgic. The music, the web swinging and the web shooting sounds all were immediately recognizable as well.
The web swinging in general is easily the most satisfying thing I've ever done in any video game ever. It's incredibly smooth and as close to perfect as it can get. Once you unlock a few more abilities, swinging gets even more fun. I found myself swinging without any goal from time to time because it was so fun and that's really the most impressive thing about it, the fact that you even forget what you were going to do.
Just as smooth is the combat system, which is like the Batman Arkham games for anyone who played those. You have a few buttons to hit enemies and get alerted before you get hit so you can dodge. Right from the start, because you're Spider-Man, the combat system allows for so many nice combos. Hit a guy, slide between his legs, come up behind him, kick him in the back, done. Then go to the next guy, uppercut him into the air, grab him with your webs and throw him on top of another enemy, done. Later on, you unlock more abilities and a lot of gear that you can use to beat the crap out of enemies in even more fun ways. Pinning an enemy against the wall with your webs is also immensely satisfying and easily my favorite way to beat them.
Next to the main story, there is a LOT of extra content to explore and because the web swinging and combat are both so fun, I actively wanted to do all the extra content. I didn't want this experience to end, which is why I did EVERYTHING in the game and got 100% completions in all 9 districts. Side content varies from side missions, in which you help civilians or fight "side" villains to random encounters against enemies of one of 4 varieties (Fisk's guards, "demons" etc.).
While you're fighting, Spider-Man is being Spider-Man of course, so he always drops some one-liner to annoy his enemies. Most of these are hilarious and I audibly laughed at least a couple times. He repeats himself during some of the side content but with the sheer amount of the side content that is in the game, that might be unavoidable. Also, the voice acting (played in German) is superb. Probably the best German voice acting in any game I've played, which can be very poor in even AAA titles sometimes. J. Jonah Jameson's voice actor does an amazing job and so does Spider-Man's. Everyone else ranges from very good to solid, which was a positive surprise.
Two more things I want to mention quickly: 1. There are a few dozen Spider-Man suits in the game. Now get this: All of them can be unlocked JUST BY PLAYING THE GAME. Yes, the game released in 2018, not 2008 and there are no microtransactions for this sort of stuff. They put stuff in the game that they didn't need to and didn't charge you extra for it. I know, it's nuts. And it made me remember how big of a difference such a little feature can make in the grand scheme of things. You can just feel the love that went into creating this game and I really appreciate everyone working on this.
Lastly, the story and the games villains. There are actually more than a few that you encounter throughout the game. Most of their backstories are actually explored during the game, which was great. My favorite thing about any story is a game, movie or book is a good villain. Pagan Min of Far Cry 4 could have been awesome, if he wasn't so absent during almost the entirety of the game. Same goes for Vaas in Far Cry 3. Heath Ledger's Joker is easily my favorite villain ever and Gus Fring in Breaking Bad is also an incredible character. Both get a ton of screen time, not just when they are one on one with the protagonist. They get their chance to shine on their own. And the main villains in this game do as well. Electro, Vulture, Scorpion and Rhino are some of the less frequently presented villains but their boss fights were still all unique enough and enjoyable. Everyone else, like Spider-Man, Mary-Jane, Miles, Aunt May, Martin Li, Otto Octavius, Norman Osborne and Yuri Watanabe were well written and all added something to the story.
Can't wait for the sequel!
(Also, I could've sworn this game was developed by Sucker Punch, this game reminded me of Infamous: Second Son so much).
Rating: 10/10

Minit
Owned Since: October 3rd, 2019
Beaten: January 1st
Platform: Xbox One
Playtime: 1 1/2 hours
I wanted to check out Minit since the game was released because I liked the premise. You have 60 seconds to get as much as possible done before your character dies and resets in the last home that you were in. Beating this game requires exploration, timing and patience. Often, you are required to solve puzzles, which, because you only have 60 seconds, can take you a few trips to the location of the puzzle. None of the puzzles are too challenging but if you're someone who has a hard time solving ones on, say, medium difficulty, this might get slightly irritating. Yet, Minit manages to be an enjoyable experience and offers enough variety in its game and level design to not bore you and make the main gameplay mechanic be annoying at the end of your playthrough. The 60 second loop is not groundbreaking by any means and I know there are other games out there that use this same mechanic. I don't know, if those were developed before Minit, but I'm guessing that Minit isn't the first game ever with this 60 second loop mechanic.
The soundtrack is fitting to the gameplay. Nothing special. If you own this game and have a free afternoon at some point, give it a try. It's a solid experience imo.
Rating: 7/10

My Friend Pedro
Owned Since: January 20th, 2020
Beaten: January 22nd
Platform: Xbox One
Playtime: 4 hours
A banana called Pedro wakes you up and tells you to kill "Mitch The Butcher". So you do as told. You go through a wave of enemies and obstacles during the first few levels and make your way to the boss fight, which was actually pretty epic in this case. Then the second of 5 chapters begins. As you progress, there are new weapons, obstacles, enemy types, ways to kill, objects to use and more. Pedro will talk to you during missions as well to give a little bit of insight on the backstory or to just tell some dumb jokes. He even writes you a poem (which was hilarious) but overall you don't really engage with him in a way that makes him this memorable and unique character that I thought he'd become.
The gameplay is great. You can use pistols, uzis, shotguns and more to shoot enemies. You can shoot them while walljumping, by letting bullets ricochet from metal objects (even by shooting a frying pan) and you can make barrels drop on top of them, among other things. When you get better and can do all these things in one motion, it looks amazing. There is a "bullet time" system as well and you can even dodge bullets by pressing LB to spin around, which just looks epic. Some levels are more annoying than exciting though, especially when there is less shooting and more puzzle solving or platforming going on but overall the level design is superb.
The soundtrack is the biggest disappointment here in my opinion. Some tracks are as strong as in other Digital Devolver games (Hotline Miami in particular) but there aren't enough memorable, epic electronic beats that flow with the action. And there aren't enough tracks in this game, period. Definitely expected something more grand here. Most boss fights were also pretty boring, especially the penultimate one. Overall definitely a game I would recommend, with a ton of replay value for anyone who wants to get an S-Rank in every level.
Rating: 7/10

Pokémon Sword
Owned Since: November 18th, 2019
Beaten: January 16th
Platform: Nintendo Switch
Playtime: 19 hours
Hot take alert! This review might anger some of you, so continue reading with caution.
Quick overview on my experience with the Pokémon franchise. I've watched the anime as a kid. I've watched friends play Pokémon games on their Nintendo DS's. That's it. I've never played a game myself. Always wanted to. My brother bought Pokémon shortly after its release, so I decided to give it a try.
Right at the start of the game I was very much reminded of the Persona series, so I guess I can see which series the Persona games were influenced by. Anyway, as a big Persona fan, I thought I would dig finding new Pokémon, the battle system and hey, maybe even the story. Let's start with the positives.
The music is awesome. The track that plays during arena battles is especially great. Collecting Pokémon actually is fun as well, so I wasn't left disappointed there. A lot of Pokémon's have weird names and look really sometimes and I wanted to throw my Switch against the wall when they would break out of a Pokéball at like 1 HP but 'oh well'.
I also really liked the wild area. It offered a ton of Pokémon to catch, a few characters to battle and get items from, items to find and challenges to do. This could definitely be fleshed out but I liked the time I spent here, though that wasn't much at the end.
The battle system is good but fights are way too easy. I've played for 19 hours and didn't lose a single battle. Every gym leader does the same thing. They fight normally til they have 1 Pokémon left and then they active the Dynamax. Predictable and makes me wonder what the point of the Dynamax feature really was. For everyone who doesn't know, Dynamaxing a Pokémon means that it becomes gigantic for three rounds. That's it. There isn't much strategy involved with it, because the Pokémon still take damage like they're at LVL1 sometimes. One final issue I have is those extremely long animations, especially for dynamaxing Pokémon. The persona series and many other JRPGs have this issue though, so I'm nitpicking here.
One last positive are the different areas and locations in the game. Some, like Engine and Claw City, look pretty cool. You can definitely see that art designers put a lot of work into this game as a whole, though as I mentioned, some Pokémon characters are so stupid (like Klikk, what the fuck is that?!).
The worst part about this game in my opinion is its' story and characters. If you're only playing the game to collect Pokémon, you might not care but I personally always look or a good story, unless the gameplay is fast-paced action like DOOM or Metal Gear Rising. In this game, you partake in Arena challenges. So you and your friend, Hop, who is one of the most annoying characters ever, embark on a journey to beat eight gym leaders and fight in a tournament to be the new champ. Hop's brother is the current champ, so Hop always talks about how he wants to be the best and how you're his biggest rival. You fight Hop after almost every arena fight and you wipe the floor with him each time. Then he starts talking about how "he is inspired by you beating his ass" and "how you humbled him" and how he will work harder now. Then you meet him in the next arena and he says: "I just beat this gym leader, he couldn't handle me and my GOAT Pokémon, I'm the best!" (GOAT as in an actual goat, not the "greatest Pokémon of all time". And his goat sucks). So this is the story of Hop for 20 hours. Gets cocky, gets humbled, gets cocky and during all of this I'm thinking "I don't care about you, Hop."
Throughout this game, every character talks the same way. "You're amazing, nobody can stop you, keep going!" and I just felt like the game thinks I'm a 5 year old or something. I know that's Nintendo's spiel, to make things feel very fun and also very nostalgic for all the players who have grown up with their games but Pokémon takes this to a whole nother level.
One last thing about the Pokémon franchise. Why are Pokémon games so highly regarded for doing stuff that other AAA games get absolutely destroyed for? Releasing two different versions of a game with slightly different content? Imagine Mortal Kombat 12: Version 1 and Mortal Kombat 12: Version 2 with exlusive fighters for each version? The shitstorm would be huge (and rightly so). But Pokémon does it and it's OK? Also, gamers criticize FIFA and other sports games for releasing the same game every year and Pokémon doesn't? It's the same gameplay loop every time from what I can tell, it's badly optimized even, it's mostly the same Pokémon (fewer this time around), a bare bones plot and horrible childish writing. Sure, if you like these games because of what they mean to you and you actually enjoy it, great for you. But to go hate on similar games for doing the same thing feels kind of hypocritical and I'm always amazed at how Nintendo gets away with it.
Rating: 4/10

SOMA
Owned Since: August 22nd, 2016
Beaten: January 20th
Platform: PC
Playtime: 9 hours
This is one of the oldest games in my backlog. I got it from one of the first Humble Monthlies but never got to it until the game was giving away for free on, what feels like, every platform by now. Nevertheless, I'm glad I was able to support the devs somewhat back in the day because this game is pretty good.
You play as Simon Jarrett, who lost his girlfriend after a car accident. He barely survived the accident himself with severe brain damage. He agrees to go into a brain scan developed by some student. When he wakes up after the scan, he finds himself in an unfamiliar room, surrounded by machinery and technology he's never seen before.
The start to this game is so weird. First off, I've played this on "Safe" mode, so monsters don't attack you. They're still there and they will hit you, when you're too close but they don't kill you. There are also these blue "mechanical plant" things. You can put your finger into its hole and then ... nothing happens. I've done this with every "plant" I've seen in the game and nothing ever happened, though later Simon puts his whole fist into it (yep). Maybe this would recharge your health, if you're not playing in safe mode? I don't know.
You meet a bunch of broken robots in the game, who all think they're human, even though they're clearly not and that gets you thinking: Where the fuck am I? Later, you meet Catherine, who helps you uncover all the mysteries. I won't go into any detail here but she basically created this thing called the "ARK" and needs you to shoot it into space because humanity depends on it. As you go, the story starts making more and more sense.
Gameplay in this game boils down to solving puzzles, which are perfect in difficulty in my opinion, walking a lot, interacting with items and reading data. You can add "hiding from monsters" to that list, if you're not playing on safe mode but I was perfectly happy with my decision. The game is eerie enough as it is and I probably wouldn't have gained anything from dying a bunch of times.
As I mentioned, the game is really atmospheric, which was really important because otherwise the constant walking around would have become very tiresome. The story started off slow as well but once I started to understand, it was this interesting dilemma about where the line is drawn between at which point you can still consider yourself human and at which point you can't.
Overall, I liked the story, I liked the atmosphere but the slow start and the tedious nature of walking simulators are the reasoning behind my final rating.
Rating: 7/10

Tacoma
Owned Since: July 12th, 2018
Beaten: January 3rd
Platform: Xbox One
Playtime: 3 hours
In Tacoma you play as Amy Ferrier and have the task of retrieving data and the wetware of an AI, ODIN. from an abandoned station, Tacoma, which was struck by a meteor a few days prior. The crew was rescued, so as you collect the data, which happens automatically once you enter an area, you are free to explore the many different rooms in the station, where you can re-watch interactions between the crew members during and immediately after the meteor strike. During these, you find out about each member's role, ambitions, backgrounds and relationships between each other.
While checking some info about this game, I found out that this was developed by the same guys who made Gone Home. These games are very similar in that there isn't any threat, you can basically just explore a location and piece together the story and the events that unfolded. It's possible that you can beat the game without really "completing" the story or finding out every truth but I wouldn't recommend it, because the story is actually pretty interesting (way more than Gone Home in my opinion). Beware that this is a walking simulator, so there isn't much in terms of gameplay. You just walk around, read some notes, listen to dialogue, do a few very easy puzzles and interact with a couple other things and that's it. All the value here is in the story and the characters, so your prior experiences with walking sims should tell you, if this game is for you.
Rating: 7/10
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Playstation 4
Xbox One
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12in12 original list - Progress: (6/12)
Half of the list done already! This is what I'm most satisfied about, the fact that I'm actually playing games that I wanted to at the start of the year. Been very disciplined when it comes to this fact to start off the year. The next completion on this list should be either The Witcher 3: Blood and Wine or maybe Orwell.
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Pretty good start. :D Thank you for reading, hope you all had a great month as well. :)
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2020.01.15 19:29 BenevolentSlothGod Story time! The Tale of the Cursed Thyroid

Hello everyone. I've been lurking on the sub for quite some time and have found all the advice and support you offer incredibly valuable. I'd like to share my TTC story so far, in case it might help someone else out there. Plus I think it will be therapeutic for me to actually write the whole thing out. It's fairly long so I understand if you don't stick with me from here out.
TL;DR: Thyroid issues are a bitch. Trust your gut when you think something is wrong and get second and third opinions.
My husband and I met (oh, yeah...I'm going way back) in early January 2018 on OkCupid. We hit it off immediately and within the first 2 months of dating we decided we were going to get married and have all the babies. At the time I was 34 and he was 36. He proposed in May, my Mirena IUD was removed in September, we had our dream wedding in Jamaica in December. Everything was great in our world.
When I got my IUD removed I mentioned to my gynecologist that I was feeling tired all the time and didn't know why. I told her that I had a family history of thyroid issues on my father's side (my grandmother and great grandmother both) and that I would like my levels checked just to be safe. So she ran the necessary blood tests and they came back in the normal range, although my TSH level could have been considered low by some scales (not the one used by this office). She said I was fine and life continued on.
I got my period back pretty soon so I started tracking ovulation and doing the BD during the fertile week. Months passed with no BFP in sight. In that time not one but both of my sister in laws announced their pregnancies. Then one of my best friends did too. It was hard. All of you who have been here a while know how hard it is. But we continued on.
My period never really went back to normal. My cycles were short (21-24 days) and light. When we hit the 8 month mark of trying we went back to my gynecologist to start fertility testing. My husband had a SA and the results were fine. I had the usual round of tests (AMH, progesterone, ultrasound, HSG) and the results were fine. Her first course of action given all that was to put us on Femara for 6 unmonitored cycles and see what happens. We didn't get to trying that....and after reading on here I think it's a shit course of treatment anyways.
The next week I went to see my regular doc because of increasing debilitating anxiety, insomnia and a lump where my thyroid is located in my neck. He ran blood tests and they came back showing extreme hyperthyroidism. I got an ultrasound showing 5 nodules/growths on my thyroid and an enlarged thyroid (goiter). I was referred to a endocrinologist who after an uptake scan diagnosed me with Graves disease and a multinodular goiter. God, I hate the word goiter, it's so gross. I was told to absolutely not get pregnant until my levels were in a normal range because the potential for miscarriage is incredibly high (and it wasn't like we were having any luck in the that department anyways). After discussing all the potential forms of treatment (I can talk more about those and why we chose surgery if anyone is interested) we decided the best course of action would be surgery, a complete thyroidectomy. Diagnosis happened at the end of October 2019. I met with a surgeon the week of Thanksgiving. First open surgical slot was January 30th.
\*side note: If you need to have your thyroid hormone levels checked, stop taking Biotin for at least 2 weeks before your blood test. It throws off the results. Most prenatals have Biotin in them. It has been a bitch finding prenatals without Biotin.****
At that time I had progressed from just being tired all the time to a total fucking mess. I had insomnia incredibly bad. I was exhausted all the time. My anxiety was through the roof which I have never experienced before. I used to be such a chill person and now Every. Little. Thing. stressed me out. My period was barely there. I had a tremor in my hands. I couldn't stop fidgeting. I was mentally falling apart. Thank goodness for my supportive husband. I don't think I would have stayed sane otherwise.
For a while I started using weed heavily in the evenings to help me calm down and sleep. And it worked for a few months then the script flipped and it caused debilitating anxiety. So I quit that. I typically don't drink caffeine because it affects my sleep but I had started having one cup of coffee a day to help me be somewhat productive. But that caused debilitating anxiety so I quit that too. I've been put on methimazole to help my hormone levels stabilize enough to be put under general anesthesia for surgery. Right now I feel better than I did in OctobeNovember. But I still feel like a shell of the person I once was.
The first open surgical spot is January 30th so I've been waiting for what seems like ever. Surgery will be a few weeks before my 36th birthday. We won't be able to resume TTC until my levels stabilize. I'll be on synthroid forever. I won't know if the nodules are benign or not until after surgery because some of them were too small to biopsy. I really just want all this over with so I can be a normal person.
The reason I tell this story to all of you is that I just want to stress the importance of advocating for yourself and seeking out other opinions if you don't get the care and attention you need. I have a lot of what ifs rolling around in my head....What if we had caught this earlier, before I mentally fell apart?
Not everything coming out of this is bad. I've learned to be more patient towards myself and others. I'm taking much better care of myself than I ever have. My relationship with my husband is strong. I have an adorable nephew and niece that brighten the hardest of days. And I take a lot of joy in the simple things in life. I'm hoping that things are going to go up from here <3
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2019.04.17 07:20 Lakshmads My boyfriends (29m) mom is emotionally blackmailing him to end his relationship with me (25f).

Background : My boyfriend and I met on OkCupid in Sept 2017. We both fell for each other right away, but he was looking for something long term and always was thinking whether it would work out long term. He told his mom back then, that he was seeing someone and he thinks I might be the one. His mom at that time said no break up with her. She is a traditional Indian mom and thinks I will steal her son away from her. Far from the truth. She said I was too short (5ft and same height as his mom) and had curly hair that reminds me of her sister-in-law who made her life miserable. At that time she said I was not the right person and would tear the family apart. How did she come to this conclusion? By looking at a picture of me. After 3 months of dating, we broke up in December 2017. He tried to stand up to me to his mom, but since the relationship was still new he thought it would be better to end it rather than drag me into the mess with his mom.
When we first started talking on OkC, my friend made a fake account to test how legit my bf was and whether he wanted a genuine connection or just sex. She was just being overprotective. However, overtime she and my bf became online friends and she used to help my bf win me over by telling him what I liked etc. When we broke up and she found out the reason, she felt impacted I guess. She went on to send a message to his mom saying we were really good together and the impression she had of me was far from the truth. She did this thinking it would be good if her mom knew who I was and from someone other than her son.
I cut my friend out of my life because despite me telling her to stay out of it she decided to message my bf, his mom and his twin brother. This caused more damage then necessary, since everyone assumed I was enabling this behavior and wanted drama.
So fast forward to March 2018, we both started talking again. In April 2018, we both got back together, it just felt right to be together tbh. We decided to keep it under wraps so that we wouldn't have any interference like last time.
In Feb 2019, he told his family that we had gotten back together and I am the one he wants to marry. His mom at that time said okay, and they all seemed okay with it. They just told him to make sure I wasn't someone who was taking advantage of him and it was two-sided and I was sure about marrying him too.
Now the drama.
His twin brother felt betrayed that he didn't share this information with him and hid it for a year. His twin brother is a mommas boy and tells his mom everything. He told his mom, that we both had sex. In India, this is not well received by the parents. His twin brother is also short like me and since my bf is taller, he wanted whoever ended up with his brother to be tall too. So he thinks I am the wrong choice for him and he is making a mistake being with me.
His mom was okay with it, until she broke down on our one year anniversary (April 14) and gave him an ultimatum. She told him that if I was part of his life, then she wouldn't be. This was because she still thinks that what kind of girl has sex before marriage, I will break up the family, stealing her son away from her, being the wrong person, making a big mistake, being evil, creating drama, trapping my bf, using my bf. She thinks I would break up the family because I allowed my friend to create drama. My bf suggested she can talk with me, and she will realize how wrong she is. But she is like I will never talk to your gf. Even if she comes across nice, she is probably pretending to get what she wants.
His dad has also said no. His mom said she would only say okay if the dad would be okay with it. But the mom basically sobbed in front of the dad and made me sound like a demon. The dad said, well if my bf wants to be with me then he will cut them out of his life.
My bf started talking to his family less because of work stress and the time difference (he is in U.S and they are in India). They were also constantly asking money for house constructions, paying loans etc so they were stressing my bf out, so he avoided calls because of that too. Since he started sending less money back home, they think he is wasting it on me. This is also not true. He is saving up so he can propose to me, for our marriage and our future (buying a house). I have never financially asked anything from him, I pay for myself and never use him financially. So all this they blame on me rather than understanding the circumstances.
The thing is it is so far from the truth. At this point, his mom just emotionally blackmailing him and manipulating him. He told me losing me or his family is not an option. But everyone in his family is so against me, and they don't want to change their opinion of me.
My parents don't know yet, I plan on telling them next month so they can meet my bf when they come for my graduation. They are also Indian, and maybe not as conservative. But basically in India, you don't tell your parents about your SO unless you are sure you are going to marry them.
I have no idea what to do. The thing is I have anxiety, plus the fact that our relationship ended the first time around because of something similar feels me with dread.I am having panic attacks since my anxiety throws me into a spiral about our relationship ending. I love my bf a lot and can't imagine spending my life with anyone else. At the same time, I don't want him to lose his family either. He is under a lot of stress to fight for us and make sure he doesn't lose anyone.
He has told me there is no way he is breaking up with me. He made that mistake once, and he is standing up for me no matter what. I can't help but feel responsible, even if what they think of me is completely wrong. He is broken by what his parents have said and doesn't know how to handle things. His other family members have advised him whatever he does, not to give up on his mom since she sacrificed a lot for him.
Not sure what to do here or not sure how I can stay sane during all of this drama. How do I help my bf? He is super stressed out and is just sad. He is skipping meals and sounds so low. It breaks my heart to see him like this.
tl;dr Bf's mom is threatening to stop talking to my bf if he is still with me. She has this preconceived notion of me that is based on how I look and how my bf changed. She thinks I want to break up her family. What she thinks of me is completely opposite of who I am as a person.Her mom is not willing to change her opinion of me. How do I stay sane during all of this and help my bf through this. What do we do to not break up?
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2019.04.17 04:56 Lakshmads My boyfriends (29m) mom is emotionally blackmailing him to end his relationship with me (25f).

Background : My boyfriend and I met on OkCupid in Sept 2017. We both fell for each other right away, but he was looking for something long term and always was thinking whether it would work out long term. He told his mom back then, that he was seeing someone and he thinks I might be the one. His mom at that time said no break up with her. She is a traditional Indian mom and thinks I will steal her son away from her. Far from the truth. She said I was too short (5ft and same height as his mom) and had curly hair that reminds me of her sister-in-law who made her life miserable. At that time she said I was not the right person and would tear the family apart. How did she come to this conclusion? By looking at a picture of me. After 3 months of dating, we broke up in December 2017. He tried to stand up to me to his mom, but since the relationship was still new he thought it would be better to end it rather than drag me into the mess with his mom.
When we first started talking on OkC, my friend made a fake account to test how legit my bf was and whether he wanted a genuine connection or just sex. She was just being overprotective. However, overtime she and my bf became online friends and she used to help my bf win me over by telling him what I liked etc. When we broke up and she found out the reason, she felt impacted I guess. She went on to send a message to his mom saying we were really good together and the impression she had of me was far from the truth. She did this thinking it would be good if her mom knew who I was and from someone other than her son.
I cut my friend out of my life because despite me telling her to stay out of it she decided to message my bf, his mom and his twin brother. This caused more damage then necessary, since everyone assumed I was enabling this behavior and wanted drama.
So fast forward to March 2018, we both started talking again. In April 2018, we both got back together, it just felt right to be together tbh. We decided to keep it under wraps so that we wouldn't have any interference like last time.
In Feb 2019, he told his family that we had gotten back together and I am the one he wants to marry. His mom at that time said okay, and they all seemed okay with it. They just told him to make sure I wasn't someone who was taking advantage of him and it was two-sided and I was sure about marrying him too.
Now the drama.
His twin brother felt betrayed that he didn't share this information with him and hid it for a year. His twin brother is a mommas boy and tells his mom everything. He told his mom, that we both had sex. In India, this is not well received by the parents. His twin brother is also short like me and since my bf is taller, he wanted whoever ended up with his brother to be tall too. So he thinks I am the wrong choice for him and he is making a mistake being with me.
His mom was okay with it, until she broke down on our one year anniversary (April 14) and gave him an ultimatum. She told him that if I was part of his life, then she wouldn't be. This was because she still thinks that what kind of girl has sex before marriage, I will break up the family, stealing her son away from her, being the wrong person, making a big mistake, being evil, creating drama, trapping my bf, using my bf. She thinks I would break up the family because I allowed my friend to create drama. My bf suggested she can talk with me, and she will realize how wrong she is. But she is like I will never talk to your gf. Even if she comes across nice, she is probably pretending to get what she wants.
His dad has also said no. His mom said she would only say okay if the dad would be okay with it. But the mom basically sobbed in front of the dad and made me sound like a demon. The dad said, well if my bf wants to be with me then he will cut them out of his life.
My bf started talking to his family less because of work stress and the time difference (he is in U.S and they are in India). They were also constantly asking money for house constructions, paying loans etc so they were stressing my bf out, so he avoided calls because of that too. Since he started sending less money back home, they think he is wasting it on me. This is also not true. He is saving up so he can propose to me, for our marriage and our future (buying a house). I have never financially asked anything from him, I pay for myself and never use him financially. So all this they blame on me rather than understanding the circumstances.
The thing is it is so far from the truth. At this point, his mom just emotionally blackmailing him and manipulating him. He told me losing me or his family is not an option. But everyone in his family is so against me, and they don't want to change their opinion of me.
My parents don't know yet, I plan on telling them next month so they can meet my bf when they come for my graduation. They are also Indian, and maybe not as conservative. But basically in India, you don't tell your parents about your SO unless you are sure you are going to marry them.
I have no idea what to do. The thing is I have anxiety, plus the fact that our relationship ended the first time around because of something similar feels me with dread.I am having panic attacks since my anxiety throws me into a spiral about our relationship ending. I love my bf a lot and can't imagine spending my life with anyone else. At the same time, I don't want him to lose his family either. He is under a lot of stress to fight for us and make sure he doesn't lose anyone.
He has told me there is no way he is breaking up with me. He made that mistake once, and he is standing up for me no matter what. I can't help but feel responsible, even if what they think of me is completely wrong. He is broken by what his parents have said and doesn't know how to handle things. His other family members have advised him whatever he does, not to give up on his mom since she sacrificed a lot for him.
Not sure what to do here or not sure how I can stay sane during all of this drama. How do I help my bf? He is super stressed out and is just sad. He is skipping meals and sounds so low. It breaks my heart to see him like this.
tl;dr Bf's mom is threatening to stop talking to my bf if he is still with me. She has this preconceived notion of me that is based on how I look and how my bf changed. She thinks I want to break up her family. What she thinks of me is completely opposite of who I am as a person.Her mom is not willing to change her opinion of me. How do I stay sane during all of this and help my bf through this. What do we do to not break up?
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2019.04.16 20:24 Lakshmads My boyfriends (29m) is emotionally blackmailing him to end his relationship with me (25f).

Background : My boyfriend and I met on OkCupid in Sept 2017. We both fell for each other right away, but he was looking for something long term and always was thinking whether it would work out long term. He told his mom back then, that he was seeing someone and he thinks I might be the one. His mom at that time said no break up with her. She is a traditional Indian mom and thinks I will steal her son away from her. Far from the truth. She said I was too short (5ft and same height as his mom) and had curly hair that reminds me of her sister-in-law who made her life miserable. At that time she said I was not the right person and would tear the family apart. How did she come to this conclusion? By looking at a picture of me. After 3 months of dating, we broke up in December 2017. He tried to stand up to me to his mom, but since the relationship was still new he thought it would be better to end it rather than drag me into the mess with his mom.

When we first started talking on OkC, my friend made a fake account to test how legit my bf was and whether he wanted a genuine connection or just sex. She was just being overprotective. However, overtime she and my bf became online friends and she used to help my bf win me over by telling him what I liked etc. When we broke up and she found out the reason, she felt impacted I guess. She went on to send a message to his mom saying we were really good together and the impression she had of me was far from the truth. She did this thinking it would be good if her mom knew who I was and from someone other than her son.
I cut my friend out of my life because despite me telling her to stay out of it she decided to message my bf, his mom and his twin brother. This caused more damage then necessary, since everyone assumed I was enabling this behavior and wanted drama.

So fast forward to March 2018, we both started talking again. In April 2018, we both got back together, it just felt right to be together tbh. We decided to keep it under wraps so that we wouldn't have any interference like last time.

In Feb 2019, he told his family that we had gotten back together and I am the one he wants to marry. His mom at that time said okay, and they all seemed okay with it. They just told him to make sure I wasn't someone who was taking advantage of him and it was two-sided and I was sure about marrying him too.
Now the drama.
His twin brother felt betrayed that he didn't share this information with him and hid it for a year. His twin brother is a mommas boy and tells his mom everything. He told his mom, that we both had sex. In India, this is not well received by the parents. His twin brother is also short like me and since my bf is taller, he wanted whoever ended up with his brother to be tall too. So he thinks I am the wrong choice for him and he is making a mistake being with me.

His mom was okay with it, until she broke down on our one year anniversary (April 14) and gave him an ultimatum. She told him that if I was part of his life, then she wouldn't be. This was because she still thinks that what kind of girl has sex before marriage, I will break up the family, stealing her son away from her, being the wrong person, making a big mistake, being evil, creating drama, trapping my bf, using my bf. She thinks I would break up the family because I allowed my friend to create drama. My bf suggested she can talk with me, and she will realize how wrong she is. But she is like I will never talk to your gf. Even if she comes across nice, she is probably pretending to get what she wants.

His dad is yet to say no. But his mom said she would only say okay if the dad would be okay with it. But the dad is known to be stricter and less reasonable. His dad knows his mom has been crying herself to sleep because she thinks I am going to ruin their family.

My bf started talking to his family less because of work stress and the time difference (he is in U.S and they are in India). They were also constantly asking money for house constructions, paying loans etc so they were stressing my bf out, so he avoided calls because of that too. Since he started sending less money back home, they think he is wasting it on me. This is also not true. He is saving up so he can propose to me, for our marriage and our future (buying a house). I have never financially asked anything from him, I pay for myself and never use him financially. So all this they blame on me rather than understanding the circumstances.

The thing is it is so far from the truth. At this point, his mom just emotionally blackmailing him and manipulating him. He told me losing me or his family is not an option. But everyone in his family is so against me, and they don't want to change their opinion of me.

My parents don't know yet, I plan on telling them next month so they can meet my bf when they come for my graduation. They are also Indian, and maybe not as conservative. But basically in India, you don't tell your parents about your SO unless you are sure you are going to marry them.

I have no idea what to do. The thing is I have anxiety, plus the fact that our relationship ended the first time around because of something similar feels me with dread.I am having panic attacks since my anxiety throws me into a spiral about our relationship ending. I love my bf a lot and can't imagine spending my life with anyone else. At the same time, I don't want him to lose his family either. He is under a lot of stress to fight for us and make sure he doesn't lose anyone.

Not sure what to do here or not sure how I can stay sane during all of this drama. How do I help my bf? He is super stressed out and is just sad. He is skipping meals and sounds so low. It breaks my heart to see him like this.

tl;dr Bf's mom is threatening to stop talking to my bf if he is still with me. She has this preconceived notion of me that is based on how I look and how my bf changed. She thinks I want to break up her family. What she thinks of me is completely opposite of who I am as a person.Her mom is not willing to change her opinion of me. How do I stay sane during all of this and help my bf through this. What do we do to not break up?
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2019.04.16 09:38 UnholyDovakiin A Long Winded Story of Me Being a Jerk

Hey y’all,
[Tl;dr at bottom of long story]
Background before actual thing:
I’m a dude that got diagnosed with Asperger’s at a young age, moved six to seven times (most moves was within a ten to fifteen mile radius around the same town), and my public school district didn’t consider me to be capable of taking all General education, instead of Special education, courses until Junior year of HS (due to me getting a C in an AP Comp Sci class that same year). For most of my life, I’ve played video games either for fun or to escape everyday problems surrounding my parents or other stuff.
My seed planter was an illegal immigrant from Austria and had been living in the US since ‘89. Last time I saw him was when I was around eight y/o. The only couple things I know about him today is that He:
  1. was a super big dweeb and probably is the reason why I played any video game consoles in the first place (Memory)
  2. smoked a lot of cigarettes and drank alcohol (memory)
  3. threw a glass bottle at the back of my head while watching something on our old tv and other incidents similar to this(uncertain if was a memory or some weird dream sequence)
  4. traveled around the US a lot for business reasons (memory)
  5. did a bunch of meth (Email he sent to my B.I. [Biological incubator])
  6. was divorced with my B.I. over super consistent meth diet (Email from B.I. to him)
  7. was eventually arrested, kept in a US prison for almost a decade, and deported back to Austria (letter he sent to my B.I.)
Meanwhile, my B.I. remarried with a man twice her age. The man dies four years after they married of liver cancer. After his death, B.I. developed a habit for occasional binge drinking periods. Each period usual spanning from the lowest of two weeks to almost two months. While most of her time dealing with heart issues simulating inebriation or slow thought processing with slurred speech. Unable to find someone until two years later to develop a casual relationship. Increase of binge periods during this time, because B.I.’s new bf is an alcoholic (and he didn’t stop drinking until a month ago of this post’s date). B.I.’s Binge periods decreased when they married and moved into their current house.
Tl;Dr: Aspie giving background info on “uncertain if abusive”, illegal, meth-head male parent and binge drinking-champ female parent with heart and martial issues.
Now for the featured presentation of “A Long Winded Story of Being A Jerk”:
For most of my adolescent years, I usually found ways to get my fellow countrymen, on previously established friendly terms with, to dislike me. This can me making up easily provable lies to flat out insulting these people. They’re deemed good in a general notion of moral ethics. I’m just a dick hoping that they’ll stop hanging out with me (this included internet friends as well). Though when I reached eighteen y/o, I realized I should do something special for my senior year of HS. Then I forgot about that idea when Senior year started up. Before the end of the first semester, a male member from a video production class broke up with his gf named “Alice”. I’ve had some G.E. classes with her in prior school years and she came to our video production class, watched one of our group’s projects, and then began scratching the back of my head during the viewing. I think nothing about the news other than my subconscious readying that info for cutting potential ties. Which I did on the day of the final by bringing it up and making fun of his side of the story. That same day I had a final in a class Alice was in. While the class was waiting for the teacher to come back, I was bored and said “Who wants to add me on SnapChat?” “I do!” Alice says while rushing over to my desk. Everyone took the exam and I left knowing It was the start of my winter break. After working eighty hours and playing video games in that span of two weeks, I went back thinking that my final semester would be super easy. Most senior students were talking about the potential future each one was excited to experience after HS. Most women were ending relationships with their boyfriends to open themselves up for college life. Hearing most of the conversations didn’t fully interest me. So I would listen for a minute and get a general understanding of each ideal future. Thinking that I’ll continue to be just me. Then the second week of March arrived.
Monday: I was relaxing in lunch room before school started and a compatriot of mine, “James”, asked me if I was taking anyone to prom. I mentioned I would think about it with no intention of pulling through, because I prefer relaxing at my parent’s house than anything else. “Come on, OP. You haven’t really done anything with our group or outside of school” said James. “I’ll randomly ask someone later on, alright?” I responded back. We did a high five and then parted ways. I was hanging out with another male associate, “Murphy”, ten minutes before the bell rang. Alice walks by, notices Murphy, and comes up asking how he’s been. They’re talking and it was brought up about how she has been doing fine since the break up. At this moment I figured “I’ll ask her to Prom and that’ll be it. Probably nothing will come from this proposal”. “Hey Alice” I said. She turns her head, her eyes linked with mine. “Yeah?” She responded. At this moment, my gut starts swelling with anxiety leaving a warm feeling in its stead. Meanwhile, my mind was in a state of confusion. Uncertain if it’s dying from blood loss or being yelled at by my B.I. [Biological incubator]. I didn’t know what to say other than “Nice shirt”. The bell rang and I took off like a Jet fighter plane to my first class. The rest of the day went as normal.
Tuesday: I’m helping another student carry video equipment to a room nearby the school’s gym. After we’re done, I go to the nearest water fountain. I come back to the student talking with Alice. She’s donning the school branded P.E. Uniform. “Alright. It’s a coincidence” I thought to myself. Alice and I exchanged a good ol’ howdy and parted ways.
Wednesday: It’s a class or two away from the day being over. I’m doing my assigned stuff for my English class. I look up to take a quick second break and fucking Alice was talking to my English teacher. I was listening and learned Alice had the same English teacher. “Alright” I started my thought. “Why this many times in the same week. I never saw her other than classes we had together. This is also the same week I wanted to ask her to prom. Just why is...” my thoughts continued on and on until I fell asleep that evening.
Thursday: I find out that there’s no school tomorrow due to teacher meetings and next week was Spring break. “Then I shall ask her sometime today about prom” thinking that there would be yet another meet-up coincidence. I was dead wrong and the rest of the day went by as usual. “Fuck!” I yelled out loud when I closed my bedroom door. “I’ll accept it. It won’t happen at all at this point” talking to myself. “Besides, I have nothing to lose from this. I shouldn’t worry. It’s pretty dumb to even think anything about it” as I’m still talking with myself. “But...” a side thought began to play in my head. “...you can still ask her to hang out during Spring Break via SnapChat” the side thought concluded. I stared blankly at whatever was in front of me for a couple of seconds. Afterwards, I pull out my phone slowly from my pocket and opened up SnapChat. My gut and my mind clouded by similar feelings from before. Pain shooting up my arm with every tap on the phone’s screen. Near the end of the typed message, my breathing becomes inconsistent between it being heavy or rapid inhales and exhales. My hands felt a burning sensation right before I press on an image saying “send”. After the message was posted, I threw the phone on the ground and started to pace my room. Then I started jogging around my room as it was getting harder to breath. The phone plays the automated text tone. I kneel down and grab the device with both my hand shaking. As I flip the phone over, my right thumb presses down on the home button. “A message from Alice” the screen displayed the SnapChat notification. SnapChat is opened once more and displays this from Alice: “Yeah sure i can hangout I’ll text u when I can”. A numbing sensation envelopes my body as I collapse onto the untucked bed. “I hate this. I prefer hanging out with savants over this bullshit. Why am I fucking doing this” my mind wandered off with the beginning of this thought process. I didn’t stop thinking about it until I fell asleep. I spent that spring break working, playing video games, and worrying about when Alice will text me. Alice never did, but I did add her on Facebook to ensure an easier way for messaging. “Fuck yeah, my dude!” My brain exclaimed on the last day before school resumed. “We don’t have to worry about shit! We can do whatever we want and not care! WOOOHOOOO!” “I guess you’re right” I said out loud. “I’ll just go to sleep now”. School was back in session, I’m almost halfway through the school day thinking about dumb shit. Bell rings for end of the class period. As I roaming the hallway, I spot Alice walking in the opposite direction. I went over and asked Alice about her spring break. “You’re a fucking idiot and you need to cut ties right now” my brain said. I was too focus on Alice describing her trip to Maine to do what my brain mentioned. The conversation only ended after her and I heard the bell rang for the next class period. Then for a good month afterwards, I kept waiting and anticipating for a possible hangout. I would occasionally ask, but she mentioned that had various events going on. Anything from her sister having one of those running relays to hanging out with old friends before the end of HS. As time progressed, I kept thinking about the prom proposal. I came up with the idea in a minute and practiced it for ten minutes in front of an associate named “PlayStation”.
Basic summary of proposal: I bring out my laptop establishing it’s something special, start playing a video, me in the video is doing a math assignment, real me interrupts video me’s focus, video me notices, it escalates to a shouting match in front of Alice, both me’s notice, they whisper a plan into each other’s ear by literally saying “whisper whisper whisper” out loud, and the video concludes with both me’s taking turns of saying this sentence “Alice LastName, will you go to Prom with me?”
This proposal idea was quick and easy for me to do, but waiting wasn’t. It got to the point where I was so fixated on her that I couldn’t think about anything else but her. “I better not turn into some Ted Bundy copycat because of this experience” my brain would mention in between each day dream of me speaking with her. My brain eventually said “Fuck it” and I would occasionally dream of being in a romantic relationship with Alice. It was super weird in most scenarios, but this overwhelmingly warm, not super anxious or painful, feeling kept appearing alongside the distorted imagery. No matter how Alice looked, it was pleasing to be nearby her. Until I wake up dazed about the reality my physical body lives in. One day in mid April, Alice messages me, over Facebook, stating “I might be able to hangout this weekend”. I’m happy. I’m not only happy, but I’m excited that I get to finally see her in a month. Saturday comes, Alice texts me saying “I might not be able to hangout today or tomorrow. Sorry, OP”. I snapped. I just fucking snapped and just chucked my brain down a well of anxiety. I’m super anxious and uncertain about if we’re able to hangout and shit. She is trying her best to understand what the hell I was texting. It got to the point where I initially thought she didn’t want to hangout at all. In response, I sent her the last ten seconds of what the prom proposal was suppose to be over the phone as a video via Facebook. Not only that, but I start apologizing for having to do it over the phone within the very same video. Nothing. No response for a couple of hours. As I’m waiting by the phone doing nothing, the text tone plays. I quickly grab the damned device and open up Facebook messaging app. “Sure. Do you want to come over at my place tomorrow?” My mind, and I, was dazed and confused from trying to process the situation. “Yea. Sure. What’s your address?” I responded. During the drive to her house, I was experiencing the same old, anxious feeling about Alice. It wasn’t as strong until I showed up on her front door step. I rang the doorbell and waited. Through the obscured glass, I saw someone with similar hair color and length approaching the door. At first I though it was Alice, but the figure was several inches taller than Alice. “Maybe she’s wearing heels or some Sunday dumb shit” A side thought popped up. The door opens to reveal a woman in her forties as the figure. “Who are you?” Asked the woman. “I’m here to see Alice LastName” I quickly responded. The woman pulls out her phone, looks back to me and says “Hold on a moment. She might still be out with her friend”. After she closed the door, I immediately assumed I was at the wrong house. It didn’t help that I waited a couple of minutes outside waiting for something to happen. So I’m panicking while pacing this woman’s front steps. Until I see some red, slug-bug looking car pull up in the drive way. I see Alice as the driver with some unknown countrywoman, around the same age, as her front passenger. They both get out from the car. “Hey OP” greeted Alice. “Hello” waved the countrywoman. “Hello” I responded. We all go inside. The older woman was introduced to me as Alice’s mother. The countrywoman was introduced to me by the name of “Alex”. They talked about their friendship’s origins and past. After a while, Alex goes to the bathroom. “So y-y-you were saying ‘sure’ to the pr-pr-prom proposal, r-right?” I asked Alice. She grinned and nodded. I exhaled heavily and then state “Sorry. I was fearing the rejection and whatnot and I’m just saying yeah”. “It’s all good, OP” responded to whatever I was trying to say. Alex comes out and they began talking about their Saturday evening. They wanted to see the live action Jungle book movie, but couldn’t get tickets. “That sucks” I said. “It was probably a waste of time anyways” my brain thought. We went from discussing yesterday evening in Alice’s house to walking around an outdoor mall talking about people the group might know. During this session, I grabbed the same pair of shoes I always got at some shoe-focused store. Alice was vocal on how I’m not checking if the pair fits me or if I feel comfortable in them. “It’s the exact same design. It ain’t gonna change” my brain thought as I kept silent. After getting my new pair of shoes and returning to her house, we all went our separate ways since she had some English paper to do. I never felt so great until that hangout. It was a fucking great feeling to get that out of my system. Then I wanted to hangout more, but I wouldn’t exactly know when. The following school week went by, but that Thursday was yet another reminder of my inability to ask someone in person about anything. A mutually known classmate of Alice and me, named “Puck”, was talking to me about other subjects. “Also OP, can you do your prom proposal in person?” Puck mentioned. I asked about why she’s asking and responded with Alice’s wish of a traditional prom proposal in person. “Alright. I’ll try to see if I can” I said. Alice wasn’t busy that weekend and we planned to see the Jungle Book together. Saturday comes and I’m first greeted by Alice’s dad. Super cool dude. He was definitely a “Dude Bro” back in his hey day. We hung out at her place while her dad was sitting nearby. I drove both of us to and from the theater. After she said good bye, I said “wait a minute. I need to grab something”. I yank my laptop from underneath the front passenger seat and start the Prom proposal. It was windy and the laptop speakers weren’t the greatest. Alice had to be three feet away from me to hear anything. Which was a bit difficult until the shouting match. The wind speed dropped down and she was able to hear the laptop. “Alice LastName, will you go to Prom with me?” “Yes” she hugged me. A warm feeling similar to what experienced in my dreams emerged. “Thank you for doing this” she mentioned. “No problem” I responded. She just has this great smile painted across her face. In a flash, her expression changed from joy to fear. “Alright. See you later” Alice said before dashing into her house. “Why is she afraid?” My brain thought. I turn around to see multiple people staring me. Most look like her neighbors. None of them said anything and every single person went back to their original business. I get back into the car and cruise out of the neighborhood. Monday comes, no sign to worry about Prom. Near the end of the school day, another mutual classmate, Named “Mobile”, asked me what did I do to Alice. “Nothing” I responded. “Then why is she freaked the fuck out and mentions your name to whatever happened to her?” She asks. “I asked her to prom” I said. “Alright, but why would she have that type of reaction?” “I dunno” I responded. Mobile drops it and later invites me to a group chat with James, Murphy, Alice, and a bunch of other classmates I knew from previous years. In the chat, it was established on how the Prom group was meeting up prior and transporting itself to the location of the Prom. I established a shitty rule set for the playlist for transport: two songs per person at the beginning. This would allow everyone to get in a desired song set, but I was an idiot, and still am, to not notice that not everyone would care about the playlist. So I changed it to unlimited choices per person. A month before Prom, my habit of making people to dislike me came into play. I rented the Ford translation of Mein Kampf from the library and started reading it at school. It was a couple days later when I was reading my nifty new book in the morning in the school’s library. A couple members of the Prom group, including Alice, were quietly chatting for a bit. As I’m finishing up how good ol’ Adolf was in the hospital for a bullet wound, I hear “OP, what are you reading?!” I look over and it was Alice looking me dead in the eyes. “Mein Kampf” I replied. The verbal bashing session ignited. Members of the Prom group in one corner of the ring, me in the other. I go for a right hook. It was blocked and my frontal lobe felt an upper cup. “I’m down for the count, coach! Get me outta this argument!” My brain internally yelled at me. “I get the comments, but I just kinda like it for villain appeal, ya know?” I said. It was followed by multiple rabbit punches from the members of the Prom group. KNOCK OUT. The bell rang and everybody went to class except for my usually low self-esteem. Alice and the rest didn’t ditch me. Even when I finished the Ford translation two days later. More, they made comments about Trump riding the media wave for the elections like Adolf. I wasn’t harmed by said comments, because I had no interest in the 2016 election. Politics aside, Alice didn’t say “yeah I’m not going with you anymore”. While a portion of my brain was still waiting for that response, Prom was all “sup. I’ll be here later this evening, mmmmk?” My mind wasn’t ready and I spent two hours making my car as tidy as possible. I got my suit on and thought I was going to be thirty minutes late for the meet up. Turns out I was thirty minutes early. I hung out with another couple of our Prom group for a bit. Then James, mobile, Murphy, and a bunch of others were showing up. The only two left were Alice and Murphy’s date. Turns out they were both arriving together, since they were finishing the “final touches”. So when they showed up, Murphy and I were waiting side by side as the two ladies walked up the driveway. Both we wearing distinct dresses and hair styles from one another. Both women look something right from a distinct clothing brand advertisement. “You’re looking lovely this evening, [My Date’s name]” Murphy said. “Aww thank you!” She responded. Alice looks over at me. “Yeah y’all lookin’ pretty good” I said. “Hmm... thanks” Alice responded. We formed a small group and started to chat for a bit. We’re notified about picture taking stuff. I hobble on over to where it’s suppose to be. Turns out the group members parents are taking photos. Everyone’s parents are there except for mine and two other group members. We dealt with the picture event and headed towards Prom. There were a two limos, fucking expensive to rent, most people went into one while Murphy and I, with our dates, went into the other. It was a calm drive, because I didn’t have to talk too much. Alice, Murphy and his date did most of the talking. Meanwhile, I just zoned out until we got to the Prom. We get there, get inside to have the forced dinner that’s apart of the Prom plan shit. There I casually exaggerated my home issues in a conversation with Alice and Murphy’s date. I was hoping this would just end the evening a bit early, but nope. We just started dancing. Didn’t think I would enjoy it until they only played late nineties hits later in the evening. As Murphy and I were dancing with our dates, Murphy is dragged to a spot away from the main dance floor by his date. Alice pulls me in the same direction. It was a really weird feeling of someone I know I’m still not suppose to have emotions for caring about a more intimate dance experience. Then it turns out we were moving to smaller group of Prom goers. “Yes! You better just ditch this Jim-jam and chillax somewhere else!” My brain speakth onto me. We dance a little bit and then a slow dance song comes on. “A Thousand Years” by Christina Perri is the song. Alice took her heels off and I’m now realizing as she comes up to me at my shoulder height. Meanwhile, she’s guiding where my hands are suppose to be during a slow dance (she placed my hands on her lower waist/top portion of hips). “This doesn’t feel right” My brain starts off. “I think we’re sexually assaulting her.” My brain finishes. After this thought came into mind, I pull both hands up closer to the middle of her waist. Then I crane my neck down and placed my head on her shoulder. I still don’t know why I did to this day, but I did. The song ended and it was back it getting jig. I hung outside the dance room until they started playing House of Pain’s “Jump Around”. Then like any other man, I got my ass back in there and started jumping while singing along to the lyrics. Best part about it was me being in middle of a conversation with Alice when the initial start up for the song. I made my brain happy by doing so. Hours later, everyone’s tired and ready to head back. Must of been around midnight. Alice, Murphy and a friend of Alice (Murphy’s date left early) skidadled into our limo first. I took half-shadow/half-actual face pictures in the limo for my FaceBook profile pic. It was dumb, but it seemed that it annoyed Alice. Then she mentioned that the photos only annoyed her, because I looked like I was super depressed and that I’m suppose to look happy in my pictures. “Sure. Makes sense” I responded. We spent the last couple of minutes of the ride singing “To Be A Man” from Disney’s Mulan OST. The limo arrived back at the meet up spot. Murphy immediately heads home, in his car, after saying good bye. “Hey OP, you should start faking a cry and tell Alice that she gave you the best night of your life” my Brain suggested. “Why?” I muttered to myself. “Do you think a gal is going to have any emotional attachment to someone appearing to be emotional dependent on her?” My brain responded. “No” I replied. “Good. Now do it” commanded my Brain. It was really easy. All I had to make certain that my head was on her shoulder, like earlier in the evening, and start doing a low-volume, impersonation of a toddler. The harsh shadows of the evening can help conceal facial expressions if I couldn’t do a decent job. And I did it. All of it. “Don’t cry. Everything’s alright, OP” said Alice as I’m trying to keep shaking my head at inconsistent intervals. A good minute passes by, I lift my head up and start walking to my car. “Just please drive safe as well, OP!” Alice shouts. I gave a thumbs up with my left hand while trying to hide my grin with my right bicep. From that point on, I only saw her a couple of times. Each time was cementing my appearance for emotional dependence on her. The first was at my graduation party, in late July, with a letter to her about how I was excited to see her attend “College #490256”, how I have suicidal tendencies, and that I wished we could’ve dated earlier in HS. Alice basically responded with: “Thank you”, “Go find a better, emotionally stable support group that cares about you”, and “You’re a good guy, but there isn’t time for that anymore. Maybe after college”. The second time was at her graduation party in the beginning of July. It was late in the evening and there were a couple of stragglers remaining (including me). While we’re in between watching films, I start talking about my Biological incubator’s tendency to drinking. “OP, are you really okay? You imply that you’re well, but then you’re nonchalantly saying this sort of shit” stated Alice. “Sorry. I’m just tired. That’s all” I replied. Then the third time when I hosted Mobile’s early, surprise birthday party at another student’s house in early August. There I further sealed the deal with telling Alice that I’ve introduced myself to all my current male associate by pointing firearms at them (exaggeration on a side story). She starts discussing about she’ll probably start partying when college began the fall of 2016. Another friend of hers mentioned that she didn’t have to drink, but Alice corrected her that she will. Alice ain’t wrong about that. Back in June, she mentioned she was having issues coping with some weird, life threatening phenomenon that was partaking in her father’s brain. This took me by surprise and that is why I gave her the generic “In the mist of darkness, try to fight for little light that’s left” or something. She wasn’t convinced by this statement. Anyways, he died late September of that same year and she probably suffered because of it. You know the funniest thing about this situation? I still felt that I needed to make certain she was okay! It was a great choice in comparison to previous months. Brain thought it was brilliant to whip that shit out from nowhere. Either way, she went to the wake, hung out with Alex and some family members, then went back to her college, found her current boyfriend, and started to post often on her Facebook with positive posts.
To those that gave a shit about reading this, thank you. I felt like I wrote the screenplay to Amadeus of how much I talked about the past. Is this post disgusting at times? Yes. I was a high schooler that had thought far worse, but I removed that from this post for the story’s sake. You’re wondering what else is OP going to say that’s wacky and colorful, right? The only thing left I would like to acknowledge is the fact that I have commitment issues, trust issues, and prefer living in denial of hating my dead end job wondering if I’ll ever have a career that pays more than I’ll ever make in my entire life so far never knowing that same warm feeling I had thinking about Alice.
“Why focus your story around Alice?” It’s because it had the been the one of the few things that repeat in my mind. So the longer I have these weird, conflicting feelings about her, the more I understand why decent guys can turn into super creepy stalkers: it’s because of weird emotional and development stuff that I don’t understand. “First cut is the deepest” even though there was no relationship to begin with. Just friendship out from my need to say “fuck it”.
“Have you always known about these ‘commitment, trust’ issues you just mentioned?” No. I ended up figuring them out when I was interested in dating a woman, named “Mia”, during my freshman year of college. She was nice, smart, and was interested in a lot of animations/films that I could talk to her about. She also had this smile that I couldn’t forget. I did techniques similar with Alice, but hinted at being more perverted. Mia still talked with me during that time. I never understood why. Maybe because I talked about video games and it reminded her of home. We kept in contact a couple month afterwards but haven’t talked since mid 2017.
“Any other interactions other than Mia?” Yes. I went on first official date back in November of 2018. She lived close to four hundred miles away from my house. There are only two reasons why I went through with this: 1) I talked to her a decent amount during Freshman and Sophomore year of college. 2) I didn’t want to respond with me basically saying “Sorry. I only said those nice things about you because I was hammered on a Sunday afternoon. Also, a woman on OkCupid was too pretty that it made me extremely anxious to the point of getting drunk in the first place” (Once a dick, always a dick). Though the outcome of this date was unexpected, the gal wanted to be in a relationship with me. How do I know this? 1) It’s the first time I’ve ever dated, 2) laughed at all my dumb jokes, 3) I usually suggest cuddling with women to make myself seem more desperate than I really am. The gal was all “Fuck it. Let’s cuddle”., and 4) “Distance isn’t an issue if we overcome it together”. Having a potential partner devote heavy emotional, empathetic responses is not what I’m use to. What I’m use to is shooting down the first chance of a relationship (romantic or a long term friendship). Which is why I also previously asked with Mia if she already had a bf and implied the only reason I went on the date with this gal is for two reasons: sex with the condom and giving her an anal lube, varying-sized butt plug bundle. Prior to that was a National Honor frat, an organization I didn’t officially leave and forgot to sign my resignation slip with a frat officer present during the signing, with sixty percent of its members being women. Most of them were cute and shit. Some of attractive ones had trouble finding relationships. Pretty simple for a guy like me seeking only a romantic relationship rather than a friendship? Yeah it was, but I don’t date coworkers. A potential “conflict of interests” can easily arise with a dick head like me with my dick head ways sucking the precious time out of another member’s day. I accepted I am a prick and didn’t think they would be happy getting to know me.
“This must of been sometime ago, have you changed your opinion on Alice?” I want her to be as happy as possible. A younger me subconsciously accepted that I’ll never be the one that makes her happy. So I sabotaged any chance with her. I’ve done this with most people that expect me to be pretty cool. I prefer to be not noticed or disregarded than pretty cool or noticed at all on a long term, friendly basis. I still kinda do this. Another example is in the previous faq style thingy.
“Do you think you’ll ever improve your mind set on positive relationships with others in general?” What are you doing in twenty years? I don’t know either, fellow citizen. I can’t expect anyone to change their ways immediately. Does it take a while? Yes if not never with some! I like me video games. An expensive hobby, but it keeps me wanting to work to see the future possibilities. I want to see that shit until some bullet flies out of fuck nowhere to take me to the “Where-Ever-We-Go-When-We-Die”.
“Are you willing to talk to Old HS ‘associates’ about your known issues?” I have stated to them I have problems. Most just bobbed their heads up and down like a fishing line with the phrase “At least your talking about problems. Don’t bundle them up inside you”. Then whenever I talk about fasting for a day to save cash, they’ll be more than fucking happy to give me a better strategy for couponing shit. Yeah. Give me a solution to fucking food of all god damn things. PlayStation was, and still is, pretty good at listening and giving me potential ways to look at my problems. He’s dealt with worse stuff with other people.
“Will you respond to messages from complete strangers about your situation?” Probably yes. I doubt I’m going to get positive responses to what I stated on this post. Though I’ll respond to whatever. This post had originally a bunch more content I realized wasn’t needed due to its huge length and most of it went against the rules. I’m sorry I’m a Jerk.
After just thinking about it, that’s probably why I ending up relating a lot with Chris Chan. It’s weird yeah, but I see myself Trap in this cycle constantly going against myself.
All I know is that my peers would despise me if they see this. Not only that, but I can see any future for myself being easily struck down by such a post expelling these past thoughts. Maybe this thought process is why I wrote a post like this in the first place. I was suppose to be asleep hours ago, but I had to keep writing for some reason. Why do I still continue to write on such a matter then? Maybe I snapped. Maybe I’m devoid of many needs, but yet to realize it. I don’t have it hard when it comes to living. I’m just another child in a sea of tears and broken bones. Is this why I stay the way I am? So many questions, too many to randomly to post here. Sorry for what this post devolved into.
EDIT: I tried trimming it down a bit. I’ll look more into it later, but here’s a “Tl;dr” for those not wanting to read the below average, around 6,000 story above (Which I get, because it’s just another post)
Tl;dr
Background: The guy, an Aspie, giving background info on “uncertain if abusive”, illegal, meth-head male parent and binge drinking-champ female parent with heart and martial issues.
Story: A guy, that preferred isolating himself and playing video games, went on journey on waiting to ask a girl to prom, had developed a constant rhythm of daydreaming about her while he was waiting, was able to get a “yes” from her over the phone, spent most of his time before prom goofing around and have the girl cut ties with him, made prom weird and overall depressing just to get the girl to cut ties with him, and he continued doing this until she left for college. The story ends with him talking about he noticed his commitment issues with two other girls from his college. The guy kinda snaps while writing, because he had been writing the post for twelve hours at this point and just was doing an “existentialism experience” in text.
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2019.02.07 19:22 trpjnf Some thoughts on the Terrible Mother and female chastity (x-posted from r/maps_of_meaning)

TL;DR: The Terrible Mother is no longer an unconscious figure in modern Western culture, like she was in the Judeo-Christian culture that dominated the West for centuries. The social and biological structures that came crumbling down with the rise of birth control and the sexual revolution have unleashed her back into our consciousness. Female chastity might be a way to counter this.
 
Who is the Terrible Mother? How did birth control and the sexual revolution "unleash her"? Let's back up a bit. There are seven characters (or archetypes) residing in the human psyche according to Jungian psychology. As Dr. Jordan Peterson describes in Maps of Meaning, they are:
 
 
The Terrible Mother represents death and destruction, rule by instincts. Animal transformation of men is often associated with the presence of the Terrible Mother in stories (for example, Circe from Homer's Odyssey). Why? She rules men on an instinctual level. This is why overly sexual men are called "pigs" or "dogs". These men are seen as weak, slaves to their desires. Though we don't live in a world ruled entirely by instinct, we are now freer to indulge our sexual desires than they've been in centuries or perhaps millennia. Birth control has removed much of the biological risk from sex. By wearing condoms and by being on the pill, there is practically no chance that anyone gets unexpectedly pregnant. Even if they did, they can always take the morning after pill, or get an abortion. Similarly, safe sex reduces the risk of STD's. On the whole, I think this is good. Unwanted pregnancies are often just as bad for the child as they are for the parents, and STD's are a pretty horrible thing to deal with.
 
From a social perspective, premarital sex no longer has the stigma it once did. Rare is the community where someone is ostracized for having premarital sex (though perhaps my urban, American Northeast bias is showing). Slut shaming still exists, but the practice is fading. My understanding is that women slut shame more than men, but as promiscuity becomes less stigmatized, slut shaming among women appears to have decreased (this is my personal experience and not backed by any data). Men still slut shame, but more often this originates from members of the incel community, and in my opinion, doesn’t reflect the views of society on the whole with regard to premarital sex (again, not backed by any data). Furthermore, honor killings (and other violent acts associated with premarital sex) are practically unheard of in the West, which I would say is an amazing advancement.
 
However, millennials are having less sex than previous generations. That doesn't make sense. With the rise of online dating making it easier than ever to connect with someone (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, etc.), shouldn't people be having more sex than ever? One explanation is the concept of overchoice. Overchoice is a phenomenon that occurs when many equivalent choices are available, and making a decision becomes difficult because of how mentally draining it is to weigh many alternatives against each other. This is why you tend to stick to one flavor at Baskin-Robbins, rather than choose from all 31 flavors every visit. A Psychology Today article on too much choice describes decision paralysis, where the decision making process becomes so complicated that people shy away from making a decision altogether. In short, too much choice leads to low levels of satisfaction.
 
Data from Tinder is revealing of another explanation for why millennials are having less sex, despite reduced social stigma around premarital sex. The data suggests that online dating apps follow the Pareto Principle. Eighty percent of the women go for 20% of the men (link). Not only does this mean that most men are out of luck when it comes to healthily expressing their sexual desires (porn is bad, mkay), the women are harmed too. Men in the top 20% have the pick of the litter, so to speak. Thus, their standards rise, and the cost of their commitment is higher. Finding a committed relationship will be harder for both sexes, leading to a lack of emotional fulfillment. Here is a really good blog post describing the modern dating scene in more depth. Furthermore, some men are choosing to live polygamous lives, in committed relationships with multiple women. The show Sister Wives is a good example of this. There are many examples in the Bible too. The most notable to me is that of Jacob, whose marriage to Leah and Rachel is often noted for the marital strife it produced and the rivalry between the two women. I've posted my thoughts on polygamy before (see this post) and the comments section persuaded me that polygamy becoming a society wide practice is unlikely. However, the point about promiscuity producing sexual inequality, which is bad for both men and women, stands. I believe inequality, along with social media, to be major factors in the rise of mental health issues the West is facing today.
 
Social media contributes to the problem of rising mental illness by acting as a massive, real time social status measuring system. Due to the Friendship Paradox, which states that people are likely to have fewer friends than their friends, most people you are connected to on social media will have more friends, followers, likes, favorites, and retweets on their content, large amounts of which are all signs of high status on social media. Add in the fact that many people follow celebrities, who have tens of thousands, if not millions of followers, many people become unconsciously aware of how low they are in the social hierarchy, both locally and globally. Research on rats has linked low social status with anxiety, and Jordan Peterson has talked plenty about how low ranking lobsters on the social hierarchy have lower levels of serotonin, which in humans is associated with negative emotions. I believe that this is another contributing factor to the rise of mental illness, especially in young people. The rise in mental illness, I think, is part of the reason for the rise in school shootings and prescription drug/opioid abuse. I think part of the rise in mental illness is related to rising economic inequality as well (because it also contributes to feelings of low social status), but I think a large part stems from the lack of opportunities for meaningful romantic relationships and high social status.
 
When sex had biological and social consequences, people were more careful with their sexual behavior. The social structures surrounding sex, such as the requirement of marriage in order to have sex, allowed sex to happen in such a way that the consequences were either desired (a child) or avoided (STD's, social backlash). With the sexual revolution however, the social structures encouraging positive outcomes have eroded. Any adult can have sex with whoever wants to have sex with them, whenever they want to. On the surface, this is a good thing. Digging deeper though, this is a bad thing, as people who are ruled by instinct fall into the Terrible Mother and Son-Lover archetypes. Erich Neumann explains in The Origins and History of Consciousness how the Terrible Mother seeks out the "Son-Lover" archetype. The Son-Lover is a beautiful young man, whose beauty is equaled "only by his narcissism" (an example would be Adonis). He is not strong enough emotionally to deal with the Terrible Mother. As such, he is consumed by her, castrated, and killed. Historically, this was literal. Priests of the Great Mother were eunuchs, as they sacrificed the one thing that was important to her, their phallus. Loving, dying, and emasculation are all the same thing when encountering the Great Mother, according to Neumann. He also says that the chthonic goddess demands blood and appears dependent on the shedding of blood, as one can't create life without the loss of life. This is why in the Greek pantheon, Artemis was the goddess of the hunt and Athena the goddess of war. Nothing new (e.g. food, wisdom, or territory) can be had without the shedding of blood.
 
Nowadays, this is all metaphorical, but still troubling. Psychological castration (as opposed to physical) means these men are unable to express their sexual desires in a healthy manner. Those who are "killed" are those who become emotionally damaged from their relationships, to the point where they are cynical and unable to recover to have a healthy relationship. I think we see several examples of these behaviors today. Those who are psychologically castrated and express their sexualities in unhealthy manners include incels, school shooters, and pedophiles. They are so psychologically weak (from the perspective of ego consciousness) that they become destructive and violent. Conversely, those who have been killed by the Terrible Mother are cynical, emotionally damaged, and destructive (e.g. the MGTOWs, Red Pillers, and the PUAs).
 
The rise of divorce and regular loss of child custody for men in divorces is also representative of the Terrible Mother. Neumann describes how in matriarchal societies, women as the birth giver had full control over her child. As I understand it, in some societies, men didn't even know who their children were. Patriarchal societies, by comparison, viewed women as only the vessel for the birth of the child, and fathers as the master of their children. I don’t view either one of these as right or wrong, but I think in Western society, the divorce laws strongly favor women. As such, we are closer to a matriarchy in this sense than is desirable.
 
Sadly, I think the psychological castration is becoming a physical castration as well. Studies show that testosterone levels have dropped substantially since the 1980's (link). Dr. Peterson proposes in one video that female mate preferences are based on where they are in their ovulation cycle (peak ovulation preferring higher testosterone levels in men), and that perhaps birth control has led to a preference for lower testosterone levels. Additionally, suicide rates among men have increased by 175% percent since 1981 according to data from the CDC (175% statistic based off this graph here). Rates among women have increased too, but not as dramatically. Finally, male to female transgenderism is more common than female to male transgenderism, from what I understand (link, though I understand these numbers are old). I don't mean to bash transgenderism, but given the high rate of suicide in the transgender community, I don't think that transgenderism is necessarily a healthy set of behaviors. It seems to me that for men to transition to become female is a literal version of sacrificing the phallus to the Great Mother (and vice versa, women becoming so consumed by the patriarchal culture that they sacrifice their feminine reproductive capabilities).
 
A metaphor that I think works well in describing the resurgence of the Terrible Mother is the trope of “Sealed Evil in a Can”. TVTropes can explain in more depth than I can, but essentially it is the story of how long ago, a terrible evil was faced and then sealed away, but now has escaped. Think of Pandora's Box, the Titans in Disney's Hercules, the plot of Paper Mario: The Thousand Year Door, or pick your own favorite example here. The Terrible Mother has been "sealed away"' (in our unconscious) with "magic" (biological realities and sociocultural factors developed over many years) to prevent "disasters" (sexual inequality, disease, the jealousy of polygamy, mental illness or bloodshed). Neumann describes in the second half of Origins how the image of the Good Mother split off from the Great Mother, and is recognized in the world as value. The Terrible Mother is repressed and excluded from consciousness. Thus, the Great Mother becomes simply the Good Mother and her dark side is forgotten. Neumann says:
 
Her repression was understandable and necessary from the point of view of the patriarchate and of a conscious development with strong patriarchal tendencies. Ego consciousness had to consign these aspects to oblivion, because it’s fear of the abyss was still too uncomfortably close: although it had successfully fought the dragon the terrors of this fight were still very much alive. Hence consciousness, afraid lest "real knowledge" should call down the fate of regression that overtook Oedipus, represses the Sphinx and with euphemistic imprecations enthrones the Good Mother.
 
I think if we are to overcome the resurgence of the Terrible side of the Great Mother, it will be difficult to do so with Judeo-Christian values. In Christianity, the Terrible Mother is unconscious. Female subordination to the masculine heroic principle is assumed from Genesis when God tells Eve she will be subordinate to Adam as punishment for eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. The story of Jesus contains only the Good (Virginal) Mother. The Terrible Mother is not present, as she is unconscious. We need stories in which the hero challenges the Great (Terrible) Mother directly. I think this is why Peterson's rallying cry about slaying the dragon and rescuing your father from the underworld is so popular, especially among men. It's striking a chord with how men are dealing with their place in the world right now, as they encounter the Terrible Mother (represented by the dragon) in their day to day lives. I think we need to focus on stories like this, like the ancient Mesopotamian myths Dr. Peterson references in Maps of Meaning and the Egyptian myths Erich Neumann references in The Origins and History of Consciousness.
 
One aspect of the Good side of the Great Mother is the idea of virginity. Neumann writes in Origins that the word virgin originally meant a woman who was independent of men, not necessarily one who was chaste (chaste defined as abstaining from sex). In the Greek Pantheon, Artemis and Athena were said to be virgins (in the independent from men sense), which is understandable given their mythological histories. However, a chaste woman is necessarily independent of men (in the traditional sense, she is not married to anyone), so it's understandable how the two terms became conflated. Based on history, I think that women behaving as both virginal (in the independent from men sense) and chaste have been more successfully adapted than those who have been promiscuous. See Elizabeth I, Mother Teresa, and Joan of Arc as examples of heroic women. All were considered virginal and chaste. From a mythological perspective, many goddesses in the West were portrayed as virgins. The Greek/Roman pantheon is a good example. Besides Artemis and Athena, Hestia is the most notable as the goddess of the hearth, architecture, and the right ordering of domesticity, the family, the home, and the state. She was assigned this role by Zeus after swearing herself to eternal virginity (in the chaste sense). This is important, as it distinguishes her from the Great Mother archetype and from other goddesses like Juno and Aphrodite, and associates her with the Great Fathepatriarchal values.
 
Dr. Peterson notes in one YouTube clip that heroism is always masculine, and references Neumann's Origins to explain why. I believe that remaining chaste and virginal is how women submit themselves to the masculine heroic principle. What about remaining virginal is a heroic act for women though? Neumann notes that men and women sacrifice different things to the Great Mother. Men, he describes, sacrifice their phallus or hair as a sign of emasculation. Hair is often seen as a sign of virility (look no further than the Biblical story of Sampson and the book Iron John by Robert Bly, which describes the character of the Wild Man [often seen as a symbol of masculine power or freedom] as covered in shaggy hair). Women, he says, sacrifice their chastity to the Great Mother, as female beauty and sexuality are sources of incredible power.
 
This is why it is so crucial that Mary remained a virgin and Jesus was conceived through the Holy Spirit. Mary (the Virgin) has engaged with the Great Mother by maintaining her chastity, and has instead subordinated herself to the masculine principle (in the form of God, the Great Father). By submitting to the masculine principle and engaging the Great Mother through chastity, Mary has faced the Great Mother and brought back something of value in the form of Jesus, the savior of mankind. As an act of sacrifice, chastity is giving up what is most valuable to women (her reproductive capacity and instinctual rule over men), much like Jesus made the ultimate sacrifice on the cross by being humbled and ultimately killed for our salvation. Thus, for women, remaining chaste and virginal is overcoming instinct and triumphing over the Great Mother. This, as Neumann describes in Origins, is what heroes do. They voluntarily encounter the Great Mother and separate the World Parents (Great Mother and Great Father, together unified as the ouroboros) in order to produce something of value.
 
By maintaining chastity, women do not reenact the Great Mother, and instead act in the creative process as the hero. Chaste women submit themselves to the masculine heroic principle. u/fslenentine had an interesting post on maps_of_meaning regarding heroic feminine archetypes (which actually inspired this whole post). One idea from that post which I found interesting was the idea of women as binding and building the community. He referenced how Progressive movements have historically been female dominated (or rather feminine in nature). I think that female chastity acts as a binding force for the community by keeping the Terrible Mother locked away and preventing the destructiveness of Her character from being unleashed upon the community. He also mentioned how women act as moral authorities given that a) birth control allows women to not only peel off the top of hierarchies but also to define them and b) Jonathan Haidt's argument that morality "binds".
 
In The Righteous Mind, Jonathan Haidt describes morality as "binding and blinding" and defines moral systems as "interlocking sets of values, virtues, norms, practices, identities, institutions, technologies, and evolved psychological mechanisms that work together to suppress or regulate self-interest and make cooperative societies possible". That last part is key. Dr. Peterson describes in Maps of Meaning how culture (an aspect of the Great Father) integrates historically surviving behaviors into a single pattern of behavior or morality. Similarly, the Divine Son (heroic masculine principle) is described as follows:
 
The pattern of behavior characteristic of the hero - that is, voluntary advance in the face of the dangerous and promising unknown, generation of something of value as consequence and, simultaneously, dissolution and reconstruction of current knowledge of current morality.
 
Historically, virginity is a pattern that has been determined as morally correct behavior. The self-interest of women in indulging their sexual desires and ruling over men is regulated by voluntary commitments to chastity, which in turn benefits society. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and thus, prevent sexual inequality, disease, bloodshed, and all negative consequences downstream of sex. Chastity represents the submission of women to the heroic masculine principle, as it produces something of value (social stability).
 
I don't really have a good way to conclude this. I hope I didn't come across bitter, or seem like an incel. I don’t mean to demonize female sexuality. I simply want to acknowledge the fact that female sexuality is a very powerful thing. Like the logos, it can be used both for good or for evil, creation or destruction.
 
I write this because I've seen the havoc that falling under the sway of the Great Mother can wreak in my own life. I've been fairly successful with women, but not without consequence. I've seen the effect that a lack of sexual success (or even social success) can have on the mental health of both myself and of friends. I've seen the effect of "castration" in my own life. I've had my ego shattered, been cheated on, and had my heart broken. I've had STD scares because I haven't been careful. I wouldn't change most of it, because it made me the person I am today, and I am stronger for my encounters with the Great Mother than I would have been without them. I'm writing this because I think the prevailing narrative about casual sex being "not a big deal" is incorrect. Dr. Peterson says that modern people think there's nothing dangerous about sex, and that nothing could be further from the truth. I wrote this a) to convince myself of that, b) to challenge the prevailing narrative and perhaps prevent someone else from making the same mistakes I've made, and c) to spark some discussion. Thanks for reading. I welcome any feedback you might have.
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2018.08.09 22:15 turtlehobopirate My comprehensive list of OC breweries and brief comments on them

Hi all, this is a list of all the breweries I have visited in Orange County. I put some brief comments next to each one as well as its Yelp page if you want to do more research. I figured that since the brewery scene in OC is getting pretty big, I should share my experiences with some of the breweries in the region. Hopefully this is helpful for those of you that want to get into the beer scene or just want to find a cool place to grab a beer you'll like. Yes, I do get called a craft beer snob by my friends.
This list is in no particular order (except near the end which are the breweries I've visited most recently). The comments are solely my opinion and depending on your taste in beer, you may have different experiences.
Places I’ve visited:
  1. Noble Ale Works (South Anaheim) - amazing beer, one of my favorites, best golden stout I have ever had called Naughty Sauce, kind of small place, near Honda Center https://www.yelp.com/biz/noble-ale-works-anaheim
  2. Golden Road Brewing (South Anaheim) - very social place, (darts, ping pong, large beer pong, cornhole), huge selection of beer that is consistently great, has food, they are the brewery that is on viceland's beerland, usually crowded, favorite beer: Cupid’s Cup (chocolate strawberry porter) released February 2018 (not sure if still in rotation) https://www.yelp.com/biz/golden-road-brewing-anaheim
  3. Green Cheek Beer Company (mid-east Anaheim) - winner in World Cup of Beer 2018, former Noble Ale Works brewer works here, great beer, cheap $6 flights https://www.yelp.com/biz/green-cheek-beer-company-orange
  4. The Bruery (Placentia) - exceptional beer, also huge selection of beers, beer strength goes up to 19% abv, food truck outside https://www.yelp.com/biz/the-bruery-placentia-2
  5. Bottle Logic (Placentia) - sci-fi/geek themed brewery, winner in World Cup of Beer 2018, personally think their beer is ok https://www.yelp.com/biz/bottle-logic-brewing-anaheim
  6. Karl Strauss Brewing Co (Costa Mesa and South Anaheim) - restaurant and brewery, pretty great food, pretty great beer (personally love their peanut butter stout) https://www.yelp.com/biz/karl-strauss-brewing-company-costa-mesa-2
  7. Barley Forge (Costa Mesa) - great beer, has food, board/card games free for play, unlimited free popcorn, jazz on Thursdays https://www.yelp.com/biz/barley-forge-brewing-costa-mesa
  8. Gunwhale (Costa Mesa) - next to barley forge,ship/lodging themed, pretty good beer, dog friendly https://www.yelp.com/biz/gunwhale-ales-costa-mesa
  9. Network Brewery (Santa Ana) - good beer with interesting flavors that change every few weeks (hibiscus, matcha, chai, pineapple, etc), not very many people here Friday nights https://www.yelp.com/biz/network-brewery-santa-ana
  10. Cismontane (Santa Ana) - great beer, have a beer that is a wine and beer mix, interesting flavors (rasberry stout, strawberry blonde, sour brown), personal favorites are strawbery blonde and mesa V, taco truck on Tuesdays and uncork new barrels on Tuesdays https://www.yelp.com/biz/cismontane-brewing-company-santa-ana-2
  11. The Good Beer Company (Santa Ana, next to 4th street market) - farmhouse (yeasty) and sour ales only, pretty much only place to get farmhouse ales I've seen in OC, pretty good if you like sours https://www.yelp.com/biz/the-good-beer-company-santa-ana
  12. Backstreet Brewery (South Anaheim) - just ok beer really (had a pretty good scotch beer though), atmosphere is decent https://www.yelp.com/biz/backstreet-brewery-anaheim-2
  13. Tustin Brewing Co (Tustin) - winner in World Cup of Beer 2018 for breakfast stout, half the beer I had here was good, other half was ok, is also a restaurant, trivia on Mondays https://www.yelp.com/biz/tustin-brewing-tustin
  14. Four Sons Brewing (Huntington Beach) - pretty decent beer (coconut amber, chocolate coffee stout), blood orange IPA really good, has some basic board/social games (jenga, uno, dominos, cards), food truck outside https://www.yelp.com/biz/four-sons-brewing-huntington-beach-5
  15. Unsung Brewing Company (Anaheim) - great coffee/stout/porters, interesting flavors like frappe peach milkshake, award winning IPAs, comic book/geek atmosphere, lots of unknown, interesting board games (even for me, someone who follows boardgames) https://www.yelp.com/biz/unsung-brewing-company-anaheim
  16. Black Cock Brewing Co (Orange) - used a Groupon for a great deal (https://www.groupon.com/deals/old-orange-brewing-company must make reservation so they can make enough bombers), favorite beers were their keymeron (key lime beer) and chocolate persuasion (dark chocolate ale), you can add cannabis CBD to any beer (100mg per pint), only open 4pm-8pm Thu-Sun https://www.yelp.com/biz/black-cock-brewing-company-orange
Places I haven't been but want to:
Here are some places that are still on my to-visit list, in no particular order. I'd like to hear some of your comments on these!
  1. Hoparazzi Brewing Co. (Placentia, next to Bottle Logic) - winner in World Cup of Beer 2018 for their chili beer https://www.yelp.com/biz/hoparazzi-brewing-co-anaheim-2
  2. Asylum Brewing (Placentia, next to Bottle Logic) - I know nothing about this place https://www.yelp.com/biz/asylum-brewing-anaheim
  3. Phantom Ales (Placentia, next to Bottle Logic) - along with beer, has kitchen and wine https://www.yelp.com/biz/phantom-ales-anaheim
  4. Legends Craft (Anaheim) - don't know much https://www.yelp.com/biz/legends-craft-brewery-anaheim-2
  5. Chapman Crafted Beer (Orange) - board games, cornhole, ping pong, fooseball https://www.yelp.com/biz/chapman-crafted-beer-orange
  6. Stereo Brewing (Placentia) https://www.yelp.com/biz/stereo-brewing-placentia
  7. Anaheim Brewery (near Anaheim Packing house) https://www.yelp.com/biz/anaheim-brewery-anaheim
  8. The Dudes Tasting Room (Huntington Beach) - walked by and saw some interesting flavored beer (orange julius IPA, mint milkshake, boysenberry) https://www.yelp.com/biz/the-dudes-tasting-room-huntington-beach-3
  9. Beachwood Brewing (Huntington Beach) - I think they won in World Cup of Beer 2018 https://www.yelp.com/biz/beachwood-brewing-taproom-huntington-beach
  10. Bootleggers Brewery (Fullerton) - large outdoor area https://www.yelp.com/biz/bootleggers-brewery-fullerton
  11. Bruery: Terreux (Anaheim) - one of the leading choices of best tasting room (thanks autopsy88) https://www.yelp.com/biz/bruery-terreux-tasting-room-anaheim-4
  12. TAPS Brewery and Barrel Room (Tustin) - one of the leading choices of best tasting room (thanks autopsy88) https://www.yelp.com/biz/taps-brewery-and-barrel-room-tustin-2
  13. Docent Brewing (San Juan Capistrano) - great beers and a small menu with some good lunch -evenkeel https://www.yelp.com/biz/docent-brewing-san-juan-capistrano
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2018.06.30 02:04 scarletflowers Results of the Seasonal Units Survey - Part 1

Hello everyone! Thank you all for participating in the survey; we have over 1300 responses! I’ve had a great time looking at the results and reading your comments, so without further ado, let’s dive into things.
We’ll start off with demographics.
For gender, 70.71% were male, 26.44% were female, and 2.85% were other (some chose “other” to enter a joke response).
For sexuality, 68.31% were heterosexual, 9.74% were homosexual, 13.41% were bisexual, 5.47% were asexual, and 3.07% were other (again, some chose “other” to enter a joke response).
Lastly, 93.57% of responders had played a Fire Emblem game outside of FEH, while 6.43% have not.
I myself am female, bisexual, and have played a Fire Emblem game before (Awakening and Fates, don’t crucify me pls).
The first banner we have is the Spring 2017 banner! As our first seasonal banner, it definitely had some very polarizing designs. Many users disliked this banner, citing the over-the-top designs, clashing color palettes, playboy outfits for the females, and thigh high boots for the males as their reasons. However, quite a few people loved the banner for the fact that it was over-the-top, and in general responders complimented Chrom and Lucina’s outfits while criticizing Xander and Camilla’s. An overview of the results can be seen here.
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Lucina (Average Rating: 3.72, Standard Deviation: 2.75 - 4.69)
The highest rated character on this banner, which says a lot about the banner given her mediocre score. This was sort surprising to me since most of the positive comments were about Chrom rather than Lucina (which just means that the people who rated her highly did not leave comments). Users praised the fact that she looked cute rather than sexy, and a lot of users also liked the bunny hat. However, a common criticism was that her artwork had flat coloring and looked “unfinished” compared to the others. Furthermore, some claimed that this outfit was in character for her (likes tacky clothes, could be Lucina from a peaceful timeline) whereas others claimed that it was out of character (too serious to be wearing a silly outfit).
My Hot-Take: (4/5) Although her coloring is muted compared to the others, I really like her color palette (the pastel blues and pinks and whites complement each other nicely). The Brand of the Exalt on the egg is a nice touch, and her face is so full of happiness (I just want the best for my Awakening daughter). Although I like the rabbit hat, it’s drawn really poorly (doesn't follow the curve of the head, rabbit face faces completely straight on instead of at a 3/4 angle like Lucina). Plus, her bent knee is too sharp and her feet lack proper depth, making them look too small.
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Chrom (Average Rating: 3.45, Standard Deviation: 2.44 - 4.46)
Unsurprisingly the favorite male of the banner, and the second highest rated character. As with Lucina, his color palette and design were well received. In particular, people pointed out the fact that his outfit had asymmetric sleeves, which is a nod to the fact that Chrom always exposes the Brand of the Exalt on his right arm. People also praised Chrom for his pose. However, a specific complaint was that he looked too skinny.
My Hot-Take: (5/5) His color palette is great as the blue, pink, white, and gold really make me picture a warm spring day where the birds are singing and the flowers are blooming and summoners like you should be burning in hell. I love the details in his outfit, like the flowers peppered throughout his design, the golden trim in the shape of bunny ears at the bottom of his vest, and the asymmetric sleeves. His pose makes him look warm and inviting, and overall, I just love love love this version of Chrom. People have commented on his skinniness but imo I don't really notice it since the problem isn't as overt as in his original artwork.
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Camilla (Average Rating: 3.11, Standard Deviation: 1.94 - 4.28)
Compared to Lucina and Chrom, Camilla has a much larger standard deviation. Camilla had some compliments such as good artwork, looking sexy, and being in character, but that was outweighed by the censure. Users felt her boobs were too over-emphasized and that she looked “slutty.” Aside from her costume, a few people also noted that she looked rather pale.
My Hot-Take: (4/5) Camilla has rather fantastic artwork, and although I'm usually one to balk at overt fanservice, the way she gives off the feeling of owning her sexuality rather than being forced into it makes it so that I'm not as bothered by it (plus her boobs look literally perfect). Maybe it's because I grew up watching Dragon Tales, but I actually really like the combination of purple and green. It's unfortunate that the inside of her coat tails were a Miku-blue (probably to match Xander) rather than green like her egg, otherwise I'd probably score her higher. Another thing that held back her scoring was how twig-like her calves look (don't skip leg day, kids).
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Xander (Average Rating: 2.82, Standard Deviation: 1.58 - 4.06)
The lowest rated unit on this banner (RIP), but much like his sister, Xander also had a larger standard deviation. A lot of people hate his outfit in both its design and the fact that it’s out of character for him. His face and pose are also cited as reasons for rating him poorly. On the other hand, you have people rating him highly for the very reasons others rate him lowly, claiming that it’s so bad that’s good. Also, the giant carrot. Got to love that giant carrot.
My Hot-Take: (2/5) As much as I want to like his outfit, I just... can't. It's just way too out of character for him, and I hate the fact that he's wearing both his crown and a tiny hat. This isn't Revelations, you have to pick one or the other!! Or just go with a full-sized hat. Plus his carrot lance is horribly crooked and doesn't follow the line it should when it peeks out from behind his leg. The art itself though is well drawn, and props to Kumiko for the ass shots in the attack and damage art.
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Some detailed comments:
S!Lucina looks disappointing compared to MAIPONPON's style of Lucina. Too childish-looking, and her colours look flat. Yet I can find charm in how cute she looks in her attacking/special pose, so she isn't too much of a disaster to look at. S!Chrom looks emancipated (user probably meant emaciated), like always, so I'm afraid that I cannot appreciate S!Chrom as much as I do W!Chrom. S!Camilla looks rather pasty, as opposed to her regular self. There's just something that seems off about her, though she IS a personal favourite, so I can't be too harsh on her. S!Xander's art is amazing- amazing artist, amazing style, but the colours look atrocious, and I can't help but feel as though IS makes some of their characters' clothes look ugly on purpose, seeing Innes' summer outfit as it currently is.
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As much as I don't care for Camilla's design, it at least makes sense with her personality. It almost felt like they specifically used the spring rabbit concept to justify putting her in a bunny suit. Chrom's design felt average--I could imagine Lissa forcing him to wear the costume and bunny ears. Lucina seemed a little too comfortable with the outfit, though. I'd imagine she would have more reservations about wearing something like that and being at a public event. Xander just seems bizarrely out of character. I don't think he'd be caught dead in that outfit, not matter how much Elise begged him. She could MAYBE get him to wear the hat, and that's it.
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i adore chrom's design here. chrom is an attractive dude anyways and the fact that you can put him in a ridiculous outfit and he pulls it off is winning! i just love how dapper he looks and also the design of his axe is really, really nice. camilla is beautiful no matter what, but her outfit here is so sweet and i love the blue accent. lucina is one of my favourite fire emblem characters ever but i just.... really hate how bland the art/design of this alt is. everything looks kinda meh and nothing stands out. as for xander....... he really didnt deserve that..... :-(
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Lucina (High 2 - Low 3): This one has been a bit of a grower in my personal reckoning. The outfit itself is slightly tacky and garish (though, if Lucina's supports in awakening are any indication, this is likely an intentional choice), some of her poses are quite awkward (primarily the dunk), and the slightly softer art style is not a favorite of mine; however, that scarf is amazing and some of Lucina's expressions are enough to keep this somewhere above par.
Camilla (Mid 3): In general, I am quite a fan of Camilla's character design (purple does it for me, as does long hair). Additionally, this one doesn't have the questionable thigh slit that takes away from her default outfit, so that's another pro. Unfortunately, in spite of a host of wonderful elements (the bunny ears, cute little winged shoes, and especially the flowers on her wyvern, assuming chibi sprites count), the whole doesn't click quite as much as I would like.
Chrom (High 3): This is probably the best take on lithe Chrom that Heroes has presented thus far (not an especially hot take, given OG Chrom is... questionable) and his outfit is absolutely fantastic. Special mention should be paid to his well-sculpted tail (just the right amount of poof), stylish thigh-high boots (the red bottoms are a very nice touch), and some excellent action poses in general. Alas, he is missing that extra spark to bump him up to a 4.
Xander (Low-Mid 5): Gentlemen, this is how you pull off a ridiculous, thoroughly over-the-top outfit with class and aplomb.
The vest?
Eye-poppingly pink and well-festooned with gold trim, yet still complementary to the rest of the ensemble.
The hat?
Bold enough to frighten a lesser man, but Xander does not shy away from such accessories.
The cape?
Magnificent, regal, and offers a nice dash of light yellow to spice up the outfit.
The boots?
Practical, yet stylish.
The rest of the suit?
Tight where necessary (you and I both know what I mean :P) and loose where necessary (those tremendously puffy sleeves).
The carrot?
Iconic.
The presence of an actual rabbit in his hat?
Subtle enough that I didn't notice prior to starting this write-up, but proof that Xander is a gentleman and a scholar.
I seriously can't speak the praises of this enough.
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Camilla's art is the most energetic and fluid, the artist's use of hair, draping and clothing is top-notch.
Chrom's art is perfectly fine, but it doesn't feel like Chrom, it looks like a Chrom cosplayer. His arms are very thin, his face is slender, his shoulder-to-hip ratio is somewhat even, whereas Chrom has a noticeable amount more shoulder. Even his regular art in FEH (also done by the same artist) seems to have more shoulder width than this one.
Lucina's art is fine, there really isn't anything wrong with it, but it feels as if it could use more details. Look at her outfit compared to Camilla's. When you look at Camilla's outfit, you can tell, visually, what all of the materials on her clothing feel like. Meanwhile, Lucina's are a bit hard to discern other than 'probably cotton'. You can also see that Camilla's artist made a choice to make the detailing on the outfit even more pronounced - the gold trim details are larger on Camilla's art, so it reads better and seems more over-the-top (aka the purpose of this banner), whereas Lucina's are more subdued and are hardly noticeable. Personal preference, but I think Camilla's vibrant coloring is better than Lucina's somewhat greyed out/muted colors.
Xander gets the "hehe" factor the best, with his art showing a strong contrast between his personality and his garments. You can envision all of these characters in this setting easily, with the exception of Xander. (Granted, Lucina needs a little bit of imagination for that vision, but when you look at her supports, you can tell she'd be down for this situation) This makes it so that his art is particularly fun to look at, so the artist aced the comedy aspect of this banner. However, his art is the worst out of all four. Not because it's bad, because none of these are bad, but because it could use some more polishing. Particularly, the shading seems to be done with very greyish tones, which dulls out the image, in comparison to Chrom's shading, which uses vibrant colors to display shadows.
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Shout-out to these comments:
I mean they look ridiculous but that's kind of the point?
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That a$$ (in reference to Xander)
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EGG!
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They all look stupid. Chrom looks the least stupid, but still stupid.
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Bless Chrom and his cute outfit and his dorky lines (agreed, redditor)
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My best unit is Legendary Ike, because Eadiant Aether keeps him in fights, my worst built unit is a 4 star Olivia as she can only sing and buff allies and cant do battle herself. (this was the only comment the redditor left on any of the pages of the survey)
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I can get boobies whenever i want, but such a big carrot? Once in a lifetime
Up next is our Bridal 2017 banner! Compared to our previous banner, opinions were a lot more toned down this time. Users who liked the banner enjoyed the dresses, artwork, and soft coloring while users who disliked the banner criticized the designs being too similar (most likely stemming from all the dresses being based on the Bride class from Awakening) and the faces looking weird. There were also those who hated the theme of brides itself. An overview of the results can be seen here.
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Caeda (Average Rating: 3.87, Standard Deviation: 2.80 - 4.94)
As Marth’s wife, she was considered the most appropriate unit for this banner. A lot of responders liked her artwork and how her design matched Groom Marth’s, but disapproval stemmed from her eyes being too far apart and her face being extremely different from her original artwork.
My Hot-Take: (3/5) The coloring is lovely and there are certainly aspects of the dress design that I like, but at the same time there’s so much I dislike. The red ribbon and gold metal is certainly a nice nod to her canonical design, but I wish her dress design had been bolder (i.e. make the petticoat red while keeping the top layers white). Her poofy sleeves are also definitely a deterrent for me (as with all the other brides; even if it’s part of the original design, it doesn’t look good) and I cannot get over how alien her face is. Still there is enough I like about the design to not rate it poorly.
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Charlotte (Average Rating: 3.38, Standard Deviation: 2.31 - 4.45)
The worst received unit on this banner mostly due to her artwork being done by Pikomaro. People tended to have gripes with how her face was drawn in her attack and her damage art (though just as many found the damage art to be hilariously in character). The giant spoon was also polarizing, with half of the users loving it and half of the users hating it. Otherwise, people did note that she was appropriate for the banner since she wants to marry rich and also had a cipher card of her in a wedding dress.
My Hot-Take: (4/5) Compared to Caeda, Charlotte’s color scheme was much more faithful to her original outfit, which I appreciate. However, her dress looks like it’s made out of cheap material, and her sleeves look like cupcake liners, which marked her a little down for me. Additionally, although I loved her damage art face, her special art face missed its mark of looking sinister, making it look awkward instead.
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Cordelia (Average Rating: 3.88, Standard Deviation: 2.87 - 4.89)
The darling of this banner, Cordelia was very well-received. Most of her high ratings came from users who felt that she was their “waifu,” and many loved the major art upgrade she got from Ueda to Mayo. Yet a fair amount of people had gripes with her face in both the way it was drawn and the way that conveyed a generic moe look rather than her true personality. Moreover, some complained that her art was overrated.
My Hot-Take: (4/5) Mayo artwork never fails to stun me. The dress is intricate and gorgeous, special shout out to the designs around the hem of the dress and the texture of the wing-like overcoat. However, the dress itself has no reference to Cordelia’s original outfit, not even in the colors. In fact, it’s pretty much a carbon copy of the Bride class. For that alone, I cannot give her full marks.
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Lyn (Average Rating: 3.68, Standard Deviation: 2.61 - 4.75)
A majority of users felt that she was the most inappropriate choice for this banner, for reasons ranging from “being too young” to “clearly unwilling to be in this dress.” Furthermore, people felt that her dress design was plain (pun intended) especially when compared to the other brides. Although her artwork was criticized for feeling flat, it was also complimented for the clean line work.
My Hot-Take: (4/5) Right off the bat, her choker and earrings catch my eye with how intricate and beautiful they are. Lyn has some solid traces of her Sacaen heritage peppered throughout her design, but her design is unfortunately limited by the fact that it has to be based off the Bridal class. Her shoes also kinda suck with how cutesy they are (don’t get me wrong, I love the shoes themselves but I don’t think they fit her). Plus, I would have loved if her sash had the same design as the patterns at the hem of her original dress. For those reasons, and the fact that she’s clearly not happy to be in that dress, I could not give her a 5/5, but at the same time I couldn’t settle for a 3/5 given how much work Yamada must have put into drawing all that jewelry.
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Some detailed comments:
Caeda's lack of a nose is extremely disturbing to me, and puts her in uncanny valley range. This is a shame, because the rest of her artwork is beautiful and would be a 5 otherwise. Charlotte is fine, but suffers from being a very light drawing; compare her linework and shading to Caeda's and it's night and day. I like when you can almost "feel" the clothing as opposed to simply viewing it. Cordelia's somewhere in between, but I just love the dress and use of transparency to give it depth. She's also my favorite character, and I was so glad to see this after the annoying mutant that is her base artwork that I might overcompensate with my love of this one. Lyn's is simple, pretty, and once again seems to be a more finished version than Charlotte.
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Caeda's easily my favourite of the four. When I think of brides, I think of women in grandiose white dresses, and she sells it. The red sash also stands out, but in a good way. The bouquet, however obvious it is, makes it really easy to tell that she's just waiting for her groom.
Charlotte's dress is a bit more simple, which isn't necessarily bad, except that she has two layers of transparent/translucent material. It comes off as her wearing a very simple white dress, with her adding embellishments on top of that dress.
Cordelia's in a similar boat as Charlotte, but it isn't as bad. Her dress isn't bad, but falls short when compared to Caeda.
Lyn's issue is that her dress looks really plain compared to the other three. She's pretty much a bridesmaid.
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Overall - This banner appeals to me more, but the fact that every bride is in a ball gown when someone like Lyn in particular would be more complimented by a sheath or mermaid silhouette makes want for a bit more variety in dress design.
Caeda - She truly looks queenly. The artist’s color choices make her soft and give off a stunning glow in preparation for her marriage to Marth
Cordelia/Charlotte - their designs are nice (and Charlotte’s damaged pose is a GREAT homage to her characterization in Fates) but if I hadn’t pulled and used Bride Cordelia for months, they’d be somewhat forgettable in that their designs don’t feel connected to their character that well?
Lyn - for someone whose outfits revolve around showing a bit of leg while emphasizing her other assets, this dress does her no favors at all. You could put literally any other character’s head overtop hers and wouldn’t be able to tell that this design was originally meant for Lyn.
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All of these brides look gorgeous (as they should) but the real stand out for me is Cordelia. Not only is this a massive improvement over her normal design, but the sad smile with her dress and cupid bow encapsulate the most tragic aspect of her character; her unrequited love for Chrom. Its a great representation of her and one of my favourite designs.
Charlotte is a close second. I actually the art style used for her more than Cordelia and the theme fits her character just as well with her desire to marry into money. However, because this is Charlotte's only appearance so far and because Cordelia's art is such a huge improvement, Cordelia gets the fav.
Lyn is... Fine. She's beautiful like the rest of them but nothing about her design stand out to me like the others. The other brides have a reason to be here thematically while Lyn is kinda the odd one out. Thats not a bad thing but it does make me enjoy her design less.
Caeda is my least favourite. In terms of design and what it represents for her its beautifully done... But what makes me dislike her the most is her face. I think the placement of her eyes and the line of her mouth look strange. Like they're out of place.
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Overall: When compared to 2018’s brides, the 2017 brides hardly feel unique to the characters. However, all of their art is very good so I felt the best way to compare them was seeing the brides as they were in 2017, before having any idea that the bride outfits would eventually become more unique.
Caeda: I love the softness and the realistic painting like shading to her, especially her outfit. The red ribbon might be a nod to her normal outfit being red but it really stands out from the rest of the picture which is all blue, so it doesn’t really match well. It could have worked better if there was more red to her outfit. I prefer her original’s face compared to this one though.
Charlotte - Out of all the brides, her outfit feels the most different. I mostly love how the artist’s capture her character in all of her pictures, including her normal art.
Cordelia - I love Mayo’s artwork and this Cordelia is such a massive upgrade from the original Cordelia we got. Out of all the brides we got, I feel that she is the most justified to have the Awakening bride design since she is from Awakening.
Lyn - Her artwork is also very pretty and I love the small details to the patterns on the dress, some which give a Sacae feel mixed with some regality, reflecting her two heritages.
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Caeda is very.... detailed. And while her art is very well done, I can't help but feel that it's a bit TOO much. Especially when compared to the art of the other 3 brides. And by that I mostly mean how ruffled and shiny she is.
There's something about bride Lyn that I just don't like. I think it's because of how flat she looks? Kind of like a Christmas ornament that you really don't want to put on the tree, but you still feel obligated to put it on anyway because it was a gift.
I think it's also because I can't figure out if she's supposed to be standing or sitting.... Ok no I figured it out-- it's the skirt. The skirt bothers me. It doesn't match with the rest of her.
Charlotte is my favorite out of pure bias. But I also like her colors. They aren't ultra bright like Caeda, but they also aren't as muted and shiny(?) Like Cordelia. Also I like the spoon.
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Shout out to these comments:
Cordelia's art doesn't really look like her. I dislike when characters are portrayed as generic moe blobs. Lyn looks like Lyn, and Charlotte looks like Charlotte, but Caeda and Cordelia look like fat-faced blushing cherubs. Peddle your moe elsewhere, moeman.
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Every Lyn alt is a blessing from Naga.
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Cordelia deserves a 6 but you limit my power.
And that's all for now! I know I said I'd do this in two parts, but reddit limits my post length so I'll have to break this up into three or four parts (I regret putting the summer units together, RIP). I'll try to get the next part out soon, look forward to it!
EDIT: Had to do the formatting again, didn't seem to stick for some reason.
EDIT2: Part two can be found here.
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2018.06.01 05:08 Juggernaut_is_here New Hypothesis: Female attraction getting harder because at least half of young men have knowledge of NoFap and are lifting

UPDATE: I am done with this forum ...my new content will be available at OneYearCelibacy ..if you have anyquestions directed at me, please post it there
Main Post:
back in late 2011:
  • Even a dirty streak of say 10 days would have been enough to get a forever alone an attractive girlfriend
  • in my own life in 2012, 4 day streaks would get girls, now it is up to 17 day super clean
fastforward to 2018:
  • NoFap is a mainstream movement
  • Many celebrities in twitter have also tried by this point like 50 cents and Kanye
  • Smartphones exploded since 2011 as Samsung and others took the battle to Apple
  • Female Hypergamy is at an all time extreme because of Tinder
  • 60-80% of women go for the top 20% alpha muscle maxxed,looksmaxxed 6" 3 Chad Thundercock *Sources downstairs
  • this is why never ever masturbate in your teens so that you can at least make it to 6 ft
  • rest 20-40% are tied up in the gf or wife game
  • at the very least 40% of men under 35 are incels
  • everybody is trying to maximize their sexual energy
  • a dirty 30 day streak won't transform you even into a feeble bleep on an average girl's radar
  • this is an infinite race to the sky now
  • One needs to have super clean streaks with even no fantasization to become the mythical Gods of 2011 and 2012
  • We have entered into the semen retention Nuclear Arms Race
  • 12 year Brahmacharya is the Deathstar 2.0 compared to the hydrogen bombs of 90 days of super clean NoFap
  • What does this all mean?
  • Keep Your Mouth Fucking SHUTTTTTTTT about SR
  • Donot empower your competition
  • Just like the nuclear powers do it everything in their power to keep the rest 190 odd countries without the bomb
  • so should and eventually would be the behaviour of SR veterans
  • look at how the world loses its ḿind if Iran or NoKo wants the Big Bomb
  • but nobody minds the secret club of US,Russia,France,UK,Israel,India,Pak
  • Again SHUTTT THE FUCK UP ABOUT SR if you happen to know about it ..it will do you good
https://twitter.com/lymanstoneky/status/992016956608872448
https://twitter.com/lymanstoneky/status/996703359489986560
https://twitter.com/lymanstoneky/status/992382141886496769
https://twitter.com/lymanstoneky/status/991811322462515201
https://twitter.com/lymanstoneky/status/991814310820286464
https://medium.com/@worstonlinedatetinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a
https://medium.com/@worstonlinedatetinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a
https://incels.me/threads/debunking-false-findings-and-manipulation-of-data-against-incels.43942/
https://ifstudies.org/blog/male-sexlessness-is-rising-but-not-for-the-reasons-incels-claim
https://ifstudies.org/blog/male-sexlessness-is-rising-but-not-for-the-reasons-incels-claim --terrifying stats but Mainstream soyboy scientist tries to mollycoddle the facts
https://www.reddit.com/TheRedPill/comments/8hyxfe/female_researcher_gets_redpilled_while_studying/
https://ifstudies.org/blog/is-the-retreat-from-marriage-due-to-cheap-sex-mens-waning-job-prospects-or-both
https://www.reddit.com/PurplePillDebate/comments/8hrhq2/23_of_middleage_men_in_norway_are_now_childless/
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4085758/Experts-reveal-sexual-partners-ve-determine-likely-DIVORCE.html https://ifstudies.org/blog/nine-decades-of-promiscuity https://ifstudies.org/blog/nine-decades-of-promiscuity https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-new-resilience/201606/do-women-more-premarital-partners-get-divorced-less https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/04/happiness-recession-causing-sex-depression/586405/ https://i.imgur.com/FzoeIPe.jpg
https://web.archive.org/web/20140101000000*/https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/ http://www.aaronselias.com/2018/11/19/review-dataclysm-who-we-are-when-we-think-no-one-is-looking-by-christian-rudde
https://quillette.com/2019/03/12/attraction-inequality-and-the-dating-economy/
New Data Out
https://www.sciencealert.com/the-percentage-of-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-a-record-high
https://www.theglobeandmail.com/opinion/article-trying-to-find-answers-for-the-sex-recession-weve-reached-a-double/
https://thebigsmoke.com.au/2019/04/08/men-are-having-less-sex-this-is-why/
https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/sex-drought-crisis-816294/
https://www.queerty.com/many-20-something-men-not-sex-20190406
https://www.maxim.com/news/millennials-are-having-less-sex-than-ever-2019-4
https://www.maxim.com/news/millennials-are-having-less-sex-than-ever-2019-4
https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/04/happiness-recession-causing-sex-depression/586405/
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/ap07/sex-revolution-my-youth-wasnt-great-maybe-celibacy-sign-progress
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/
https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/04/happiness-recession-causing-sex-depression/586405/
New Data from Japan
https://www.forbes.com/sites/ericmack/2019/04/07/a-quarter-of-japanese-adults-under-40-are-virgins-and-the-number-is-increasing/#650c21037e4d https://edition.cnn.com/2019/04/08/health/japan-sexual-inexperience-intl/index.html
Report on may who may not sex their wives but rather focus on work
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/married-and-still-doing-it/201403/the-4-hidden-reasons-some-men-dont-want-sex https://www.womansday.com/relationships/sex-tips/a967/8-reasons-he-doesnt-want-to-have-sex-91131/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/married-and-still-doing-it/201804/6-possible-reasons-man-may-decline-sex
some judges think sex is a fundamental human right in marriage, I disagree
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/8807038/no-husband-has-the-legal-right-to-demand-sex/
https://inews.co.uk/news/judge-uk-man-sex-with-wife-fundamental-human-right-mr-justice-hayden/
https://www.theguardian.com/law/2019/ap03/english-judge-says-man-having-sex-with-wife-is-fundamental-human-right
https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/sex-and-intimacy/understanding-your-husbands-sexual-needs/sex-is-a-physical-need
https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/sex-and-intimacy/understanding-your-husbands-sexual-needs/your-husbands-sex-drive-is-gods-gift-to-you
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6891167/The-desperate-men-choosing-chemical-castrations-suppress-sexual-urges.html
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6898321/Virgin-territory-study-shows-sexual-inexperience-rising-Japan.html
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3595764/Cult-luring-Australian-girls-brides-South-Korean-rapist.html
http://www.unz.com/mhudson/the-delphic-oracle-was-their-davos/
https://www.reddit.com/NoFap/comments/bb8kz1/ama_with_a_porn_cameraman_must_read/
https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=177016671&page=1
https://www.reddit.com/Destiny/comments/8ils2c/the_share_of_norwegian_men_who_are_childless_at/
https://www.reddit.com/JordanPeterson/comments/8hyrva/nearly_25_of_middleaged_men_in_norway_are_now/
https://www.reddit.com/MensRights/comments/8i9z41/norwegian_female_researcher_discovers_why_so_many/
https://www.reddit.com/PurplePillDebate/comments/8hrhq2/23_of_middleage_men_in_norway_are_now_childless/
https://www.reddit.com/Destiny/duplicates/9gu3cw/in_norway_the_rate_of_childlessness_for_men_is/
https://www.reddit.com/MGTOW/comments/8i9w6d/female_researcher_gets_redpilled_while_studying/
https://www.reddit.com/FeMRADebates/comments/8jfh5h/a_quarter_of_norwegian_men_never_father_children/
https://www.reddit.com/PurplePillDebate/comments/8gir62/gap_between_biological_fathers_and_biological/
https://www.reddit.com/FeMRADebates/duplicates/8jfh5h/a_quarter_of_norwegian_men_never_father_children/
https://www.reddit.com/MGTOW/comments/8i9w6d/female_researcher_gets_redpilled_while_studying/
https://www.reddit.com/TheRedPill/comments/8hyxfe/female_researcher_gets_redpilled_while_studying/
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10680-018-9511-3
http://sciencenordic.com/quarter-norwegian-men-never-father-children
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternal_age_effect
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Advanced_maternal_age
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_and_female_fertility
https://www.reddit.com/BlackPillScience/comments/bc1gm1/an_interesting_elaboration_on_aging_male_peak/
https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/800/0*XxUnEGiFe82-r4FA.jpg
https://medium.com/@worstonlinedatetinder-experiments-d44892e18f75
https://www.reddit.com/BlackPillScience/comments/92tavy/at_what_age_do_men_peak_in_attractiveness_one/e3u3xme/?context=3
http://static1.businessinsider.com/image/58c9aacb6ff8011a008b52dc-1200
women find 80 percent men unattractive okcupid dataclysm
https://theblog.okcupid.com/a-womans-advantage-82d5074dde2d
https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/?guccounter=1&guce_referrer_us=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmRlLw&guce_referrer_cs=l23vy-VYn_YaFSS_zO6Qaw
https://www.yourtango.com/2016285828/women-find-80-percent-men-unattractive-says-crazy-study
https://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/1225428-OKCupid-study-shows-women-say-80-of-men-are-quot-below-average-quot-looking
https://web.archive.org/web/20170218201609/https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0f1561e?gi=f62db2d93d02
https://www.hookingupsmart.com/2013/10/31/relationshipstrategies/conclusive-data-male-vs-female-sexual-market-value/
https://www.hookingupsmart.com/2013/10/15/relationshipstrategies/myth-plummeting-female-sexual-market-value/
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/marriage/marriage-is-dying-in-lower-class-america
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/sex/male-vs-female-sexual-market-value
https://www.hookingupsmart.com/2013/10/31/relationshipstrategies/conclusive-data-male-vs-female-sexual-market-value/
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https://therationalmale.com/2013/10/20/sex-lies-and-statistics/#comment-23983
https://theblog.okcupid.com/the-case-for-an-older-woman-99d8cabacdf5
http://alphagameplan.blogspot.com/2013/10/savaged-by-statistical-sheep.html
https://www.hookingupsmart.com/2013/10/15/relationshipstrategies/myth-plummeting-female-sexual-market-value/
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/what-it-means-to-be-a-man-according-to-men
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/uncategorized/why-gender-feminists-ignore-science-that-doesnt-confirm-their-beliefs
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/chemistry/do-women-trade-on-their-looks-to-get-men-with-money/comment-page-3
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/why-there-are-no-attractive-men-in-your-area
https://www.unz.com/anepigone/sex-and-marriage-go-together-like-a-horse-and-carriage/
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/my-boyfriend-takes-boudoir-photos-of-other-women-and-im-uncomfortable
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/letting-go/i-screwed-up-with-a-guy-do-you-think-i-can-fix-it
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/marriage/how-to-open-up-your-relationship
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/having-sex-is-too-painful-how-can-i-have-a-relationship
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/marriage/should-we-get-rid-of-marriage-altogether
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/sex/how-it-feels-when-your-man-doesnt-desire-you
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/ive-made-a-million-mistakes-and-my-boyfriend-is-still-here-what-now
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/im-hotter-than-my-boyfriend-and-i-feel-like-im-settling
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/why-do-men-get-serious-so-fast
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/sex/getting-sexually-rejected-sucks-for-men-and-women
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/all-the-guys-on-dating-apps-just-want-to-get-laid-what-should-i-do
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/why-progressive-and-religious-marriages-are-similar-and-better-than-others
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/i-think-i-pushed-a-good-guy-away-by-being-too-intense
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/sex/do-men-and-women-think-about-sex-differently
https://www.unz.com/anepigone/war-sex-and-community/
https://www.unz.com/anepigone/zoomer-rectitude/
https://www.unz.com/anepigone/sex-influencers/
https://www.unz.com/anepigone/disdain-for-incels/
https://www.unz.com/anepigone/sex-and-marriage-go-together-like-a-horse-and-carriage/
https://www.unz.com/anepigone/sex-from-committed-to-casual/
https://www.unz.com/anepigone/adultery-rates-by-race-and-sex/
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/communication/why-youre-happier-in-a-relationship-than-when-youre-not
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/how-can-i-stop-being-attracted-to-the-wrong-men
https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/im-invisible-and-unwanted-by-men-and-its-not-my-fault
https://looksmax.me/threads/the-future-of-marriages-suifuel.134340/
https://looksmax.me/threads/foid-tells-the-truth-about-how-women-really-feel-about-ugly-men.136060/
https://looksmax.me/threads/how-to-get-top-grades-and-barely-study-high-iq-gtfih.78080/
https://looksmax.me/threads/how-tall-are-you.140048/
https://looksmax.me/threads/average-indian-is-510.141509/
https://looksmax.me/threads/what-is-reality-for-oldcels-options.134864/
https://looksmax.me/threads/rate-the-candids-of-these-30-men-some-of-these-arent-great-quality.132587/
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https://bigthink.com/stephen-johnson/study-women-peak-at-18-on-dating-apps-men-peak-at-50
https://www.scarymommy.com/reddit-creep-flirts-with-teenagers/
https://looksmax.me/threads/oldcel-rating.125583/
https://www.reddit.com/BlackPillScience/comments/bc1gm1/an_interesting_elaboration_on_aging_male_peak/
https://looksmax.me/threads/best-looksmaxxer-anti-age-maxxer-i-know-some-hope-for-older-men-and-the-after-25-its-over-crowd.110290/
https://iconicmen.wordpress.com/2013/10/24/smv-is-it-real/
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https://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2015/07/03/ok-cupid-data-on-sex-desirability-and-age/
https://medium.com/@worstonlinedatetinder-experiments-d44892e18f75
https://medium.com/@worstonlinedatetinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a
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https://looksmax.me/threads/holy-shit-i-found-out-why-kids-are-so-tall-these-days.143084/
https://looksmax.me/threads/gymcelling-is-cope-bro-nobody-cares-about-body-bro.132103/
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https://lookism.net/threads/sexy-white-blue-eyed-blonde-female-goes-horny-for-ethnic-chad.485444/
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2018.04.09 03:22 vcardthrow1 "For a 30-Year-Old Virgin, It’s Now or Never"

I'm copying and pasting the whole thing for you all to read so you don't hit the paywall. I've only glanced. And if I want to ruin my day I might look at the FB comments. https://www.nytimes.com/2018/03/30/style/modern-love-for-a-30-year-old-virgin-its-now-or-never.html?mc=aud_dev&mcid=facebook&mccr=MC34&ad-keywords=AudDevGate&subid1=TAFI
I'm more interested in the comments.
You know it's disgusting - somehow...I feel like people would just laugh if she weren't sick.
Anyway
The candles were lit. The gin and tonic was chugged. His pants were down. I hesitated for a moment before saying, “I’ve never actually done this before.”
I was talking about sex.
“Oh, really?” he said, sounding more titillated than concerned.
“Are you still going to respect me in the morning?” I said, half-joking.
“Of course. We can do whatever you want. I’ll respect you either way.”
Several thoughts flashed through my head: My heart is failing. This guy may not stick around long. I’m 30. Thirty!
“O.K., let’s do it,” I said.
And that’s how I ended up losing my virginity on a fourth date with a middle-school teacher that I didn’t even particularly like. Because I thought I was dying.
Born with congenital heart disease, I had five major heart operations before I was 10 and have had five minor heart operations since. I have several metal devices in my chest that my heart depends on, including an implanted defibrillator and a mechanical aortic valve. My condition is so severe that as I age, my heart continues to have problems leading to more operations and other procedures.
As dire as that sounds, I am usually able to function like a normal human being. I even practice yoga and lift weights and do a little cardio, although I have to stop after a minute or two. But 18 months ago I realized I was becoming winded from just walking down the street. I actually had to stop and catch my breath from walking. Climbing stairs, even a few, became incredibly difficult.
As the months wore on, my energy continued to deplete. I would go to work and come home and rest most nights. Although I was tired all of the time, I forced myself to go out on weekends because I refused to believe I was sick.
My doctors couldn’t find anything wrong with my heart. They thought it was excess fluid, so they kept increasing my diuretics. The increase in medication would help initially, but after six weeks or so my energy level would plummet again. In six months, they had quadrupled my dose. Even though I had completely stopped exercising, I had lost 12 pounds. My face was so gaunt that I was starting to resemble a Disney villain.
I looked awful. But the guy I was dating didn’t think so. He thought I looked thin and hot. And I liked that. I had never had a boyfriend and was hoping he would be the first.
Whenever I mention that I have never had a boyfriend, I am always asked why, as if finding someone to connect with emotionally and physically should be so easy. It’s not as if I’ve had all these wonderful options and I just refuse to be tied down. The simple answer is that I have never met someone I wanted to be with who also wanted to be with me. In fact, I’m the girl who likes the guy who likes someone else.
In high school, my crush was the popular guy that I never had a chance with, but we danced to Missy Elliott’s “Work It” at the spring dance sophomore year, which as a non-popular late bloomer is clearly a teenage highlight I’m still holding on to 15 years later. (To be fair, I was dancing behind him while the cheerleader he was actually hooking up with danced with him face to face.)
In college, I directed my attention toward my best guy friend from high school who transferred to my university after freshman year. Even though we hung out every other day, he somehow failed to mention that he was secretly dating my high school rival. By graduation, she had cut off contact with most of our friend group and he followed suit shortly after.
And in my 20s, I fell for my boss at my first job, a man who was quietly dating his boss’s executive assistant. After almost a year together, he dumped the assistant and a month later married his on-again-off-again college girlfriend. So what I’m saying is I have impeccable taste in men. With my track record, I seemed doomed to wander this earth alone, pining for someone else’s boyfriend.
But in May of last year, I uncharacteristically found myself talking to someone on OkCupid who appeared to be single. He was a teacher at the same middle school he had attended, which I found adorable. We lived on opposite sides of Los Angeles, which made it a long-distance relationship. I saw him once a week.
Our first date was brunch at a place halfway between us in Culver City. As we looked over the menu, he mentioned that he didn’t know what a poached egg was. After I explained how you poach an egg, he still was unsure what it looked like, so I ordered an avocado toast with a poached egg so he could see it. It was weirdly endearing.
He was kind of sweet, but after a few dates, I knew on some level that it wasn’t going to last long. There were red flags — or maybe just things I didn’t like about him. He never complimented me, for example, except in the one email where he said I was “hot.” He never said I looked nice or pretty to my face.
Isn’t that Dating 101? You see your date and say, “You look great” or simply, “You look nice.” He didn’t do that.
But here was my situation. After almost nine months of feeling weak and seeing cardiologists who were unable to offer much in the way of solutions, I was starting to believe that, for me, this was the beginning of the end.
Sometimes people with complex congenital heart disease get to the point where medicine has done all it can to delay the inevitable, and since my doctors were so stumped, I believed my time was almost up. And I didn’t want to die a virgin. So I thought, “I should have sex with this guy.”
For our fourth (and penultimate) date, he came over to my apartment and I made him dinner.
For a starter, I made guacamole. “Let me know if it needs anything,” I said, but I didn’t actually want to know if it needed anything. I just wanted him to say, “It’s delicious,” and eat it.
Instead, he added a ton of salt.
I thought: “What are you doing? I have a heart condition!”
Later, when I was roasting brussels sprouts, I didn’t ask for his opinion on them because I know how to make brussels sprouts and they’re pretty damn good. But he still came over and insisted that they needed seasoning (other than the salt, pepper and garlic I added), so he put oregano on them. On all of them, not just his portion.
We ate dinner and then moved to the couch, where we briefly entertained the idea of watching something on TV. But we both knew where this was going, so we went into my room and sat on my bed and — you know what happened next.
It was fine. And then, in the morning, he left at 7 “to grade papers.”
Whatever, dude. I saw him the next week, when he made it pretty obvious he wasn’t interested in me as a person. After that, we ghosted each other.
Two months later, when it was clear I was still sick and the medicine wasn’t working, I underwent a procedure so they could see what was going on with my heart. During that process, they found a significant hole between my right ventricle and my aorta called a right ventricular fistula, which they sealed with a metal disc.
Within weeks, my health improved. I had more energy, didn’t get winded walking down the street or climbing stairs, and had gained weight. Now, almost a year later, I’m back to my version of normal and no longer feel the specter of death looming over me.
Given how things turned out, am I upset that I lost my virginity in a rush to a guy who didn’t matter?
Not really. I was going through a lot of things that weren’t normal.
People like to say, “There’s no such thing as normal,” as if that’s supposed to make people who are abnormal feel better. But we all know the truth. Having 10 heart operations before age 30 is not normal. Having your health rapidly decline to the point that you think you’re dying at age 30 is not normal. Being a 30-year-old virgin is not normal.
I saw an opportunity to feel a little more normal and took it. And now I’m just like every other woman who’s had a penis inside her.
Clare Almand is a writer in Los Angeles.
[email protected]
It creeps me out FB showed this to me - it's a four day old article. They must be mining what I bring here pretty badly.
Now I can't find the original posting where some not-sadistic comments were.
Reading it over, I wonder if this would have even been published if she hadn't thought she were dying, let alone met with an ounce of sympathy. Jesus.
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2017.10.27 00:49 FurkanE17 My Progress in October

Hello 12in12 community,
here you can find my progress in September.
Newly added games in October (4)
  • CUPID [Free on Steam]
  • Half-Life: C.A.G.E.D [Free on Steam]
  • Hue [PS+]
  • Sky Force Anniversary [PS+]
I'm currently on a 6 week, work-related trip, so I only have my laptop with me. I saw no need to buy any games for a fee, as I couldn't have played them anyway. So I only acquired 4 games total (all for free), which is the fewest total for a month this year. I also "beat" all these games already, so I'm content.
"Finished" Games in October (10)
Abandoned Games:
Final Fantasy
  • Platform: Android
  • Playtime: 5 hours
  • Rating: 43/100 l Not Good
  • Opinion: FF on a smartphone display is not a great idea. It wasn't really that much fun on a touchscreen, as the UI was small and clunky. I didn't like the battle system either (getting into random battles every 5 seconds), so the game was a chore most of the time. The turn based fighting is really pretty basic but I guess that's to be expected for a 30+ year old game. The music/sound in FF was pretty solid but regardless, I couldn't look past the repetitive gameplay. I'll skip FF2 and (maybe) buy FF3 on Steam at some point in the future.
Shantae and the Pirate's Curse
  • Platform: PC
  • Playtime: 4 hours
  • Rating: 62/100 l Good
  • Opinion: I got to a point where I couldn't get past. You need to jump over guards without them seeing you, in order to get past them. If they do see you, the game sends you to the beginning of the level, which led me to spend 30 minutes doing the same thing over and over again, to a point where I wasn't enjoying myself anymore. I don't have the time or the interest in not seeing any progress over that much time, so I just uninstalled the game. I've had quite some fun until then, so I'll give the game that.
Finished Games:
CUPID
  • Platform: PC
  • Playtime: 4 hours
  • Rating: 47/100 l Not Good
  • Opinion: This has been recommended to me, so I gave it a try. I don't like visual novels that much, so this didn't really have a good chance of getting a good rating. I tried to enjoy it and I have to say, the writing was pretty solid, the plot was .. weird .. but had a lot of potential. There was no gameplay, so it was hard to not get bored from time to time. A visual novel combined with gameplay might be enjoyable, this one was a below average experience.
God of War II
  • Platform: PS Vita
  • Playtime: 11 1/2 hours
  • Rating: 73/100 l Very Good
  • Opinion: I liked the first GoW a lot. I like Greek Mythology, so it was nice to play a game with that thematic. The gameplay was repetitive in a fun way and the atmosphere was reeeeally easy to get immersed in. God of War II is more of the same, I digged the plot even more this time around. The GoW games have one particular bug on the PS Vita though. The rearpad doesn't work sometimes, so you have to restart the game (and the whole system sometimes) to get it working again. Very close to the final boss, the bug happened and even restarting the system didn't work. I couldn't play the final hour because of that, so I had to watch the final few scenes on Youtube. Other than that I had a lot of fun and wholeheartedly recommend GoW I and II.
Half-Life
  • Platform: PC
  • Playtime: 12 hours
  • Rating: 79/100 l Very Good
  • Opinion: Half-Life holds up really well. I was actually surprised by that. I was afraid that I would hate it, that it would control terribly and that the graphics would be too off-putting. I'm glad to be able to say (almost) the complete opposite about this one. The controls are a bit wonky here and there (when you stop moving, you move a few inches further, which can be the difference in falling of a platform). The quality of voice recording is rather low, which is understandable. There is no hitmarker, which needs getting used to... But the game has an overwhelming amount of positives. The atmosphere was great, I seriously didn't expect that. The weapons were really fun to play with and offered a good amount of player choice. Using the correct weapon made the difference here and there, I liked that as well. When the game did have some music, it was a nice addition to the action going on. It's definitely a classic and still can be played, if you're interested.
Half-Life: C.A.G.E.D
  • Platform: PC
  • Playtime: 1 hour
  • Rating: 60/100 l Good
  • Opinion: A re-released level (I think) and it was free, so I thought "why not". It's Half-Life with improved textures. The enemies were actually reacting to being shot, so that was nice. The plot of this one is straightforward. You got imprisoned and try to escape. That's about it. Pretty cool, nothing amazing.
Hotline Miami 2 - Wrong Number
  • Platform: PC
  • Playtime: 7 1/2 hours
  • Rating: 69/100 l Good
  • Opinion: I liked the first game, I liked this one. Definitely has one of my favorite soundtracks ever, simply amazing. Almost every track got me pumped, when shooting enemies one by one. They've added a big story around a few characters as well but that didn't really do anything for me. The gameplay was really nice but after a while it did get a bit repetitive. Some of the levels were too long imo. Overall really fun though.
Hue
  • Platform: PS Vita
  • Playtime: 4 hours
  • Rating: 43/100 l Not Good
  • Opinion: Meh. I've played a lot of platformers this year, so I might've gotten tired of them. This felt really average, like I've seen it a few times already, with a meh plot attached and some average puzzles. Did see it through though, saw the ending (which was alright) and uninstalled it immediately after. It's OK for a free game, I didn't like it though.
Sky Force Anniversary
  • Platform: PS Vita
  • Playtime: 8 hours
  • Rating: 57/100 l OK
  • Opinion: I rarely play shmup games, so this one felt new. I enjoyed it mostly but I really didn't like the games' level design. You have to finish 8 stages. They unlock as you earn medals, so you have to replay prior stages over and over to unlock the next ones. I'm not a fan of that. Why not let me play all the stages, as I beat the previous ones. Unlocking medals should be optional (and maybe unlock bonus levels) and not keeping you from playing main stages. Just my opinion, didn't like that that much.
Uncharted: Golden Abyss
  • Platform: PS Vita
  • Playtime: Around 10 hours
  • Rating: 51/100 l OK
  • Opinion: It's apparent that this just was supposed to be a cashoff and a system seller because of the big name. The game felt like a lazy attempt at an Uncharted game though. Everything felt below average about this one. The new characters (Dante, Chase) were really bland, the voice actor of Dante was really bad, the villain was one of the worst and meaningless in the history of gaming (obviously exaggerating here, but still) and the new gameplay elements were just ways to lengthen the playtime. You have the typical Uncharted story progression (climb, shoot, cutscene...) and climbing and shooting is just as OK as in the main series. The dialogue though, damn, it's so bad. At least the visuals were still pretty high quality, all things considered. You can definitely skip this one though.
I'm not at 100+ games for the year, which is really solid. Didn't finish 'em all, of course but I'm content with that. I'll try to get to 110 by the end of the year but all my major goals are completed by now. I've removed a ton of games from my backlog, so I'm now less than 100 games away from having no backlog anymore, which is exciting.
As a patient gamer I have only played two games that released this year (Husk and Half-Life: C.A.G.E.D), so there are a ton of them I'm interested in buying right now. When I'm done with the backlog I can go at them one by one, so that's exciting.
Here is an update on my original 12in12 list.
  • Prince of Persia - Sands of Time [BEATEN IN JAN]
  • Red Dead Redemption [BEATEN IN FEB]
  • Uncharted 2 [BEATEN IN JAN]
  • Uncharted 3 [BEATEN IN APR]
  • Wolfenstein - New Order [BEATEN IN JAN]
  • Wolfenstein - Old Blood [BEATEN IN JAN]
  • Half-Life [BEATEN IN OCT]
  • Dishonored [BEATEN IN MAY]
  • The Secret of Monkey Island [BEATEN IN FEB]
  • Hyper Light Drifter (will start next)
  • The Witcher 3 - GOTY Edition [BEATEN IN SEP]
  • Metal Gear Rising - Revengeance [BEATEN IN JAN]
I removed Kentucky Route Zero (Act 5 coming out in 2018) and Hacknet (removed from my backlog completely), so I've added Half-Life and Hyper Light Drifter. Half-Life is already done and I'll start up Hyper Light Drifter soon.
Some other games I wanna finish in November are:
  • Child of Light [PS4]
  • Persona 4 Golden [PSVita]
  • Outlast [PC]
  • Outlast: Whistleblower [PC]
  • System Shock
We'll see, I'll be fine if I can beat 3-4 of those.
Also some general stats for the year
Purchased Games: 103
Total Price Paid: ~ 129 €
Finished: 103
True Finished Counter: 75 (games I've actually played through to the end)
Happy gaming everyone.
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2016.07.07 14:59 qazxcthrow Me [25 M] with my GF [28 F] of 2 years, how to bring up doubts and issues when she wants a proposal this year?

I've tried to cut down the wordage of this as much as I can, sorry it's so long.
I've been in a relationship with my GF for a little over 2.5 years now and it's honestly been great. She's a net positive in my life and we get along very well. She really wants to get engaged this year with sights on a 2018 marriage but I do have some things I want to talk about before I propose. Some really big and small things that nag at me. I feel like I have a problem standing up for myself a lot of the time which maybe led to some of these issues in the first place.
Sex: This may be one of the biggest points for me. We don't have sex as often as I'd like to, and when we do the focus is really on her. Maybe 1 time a week on average, at my behest. I get rejected A LOT. It seems like she doesn't care about sex at all, which is strange to me because we initially met online strictly for casual sex.
I eat her out every time we have sex but she's not interested in reciprocating or even trying out anything that excites me whatsoever. Most of my requests are pretty tame. And it's not anything like anal, or even BDSM related. I can explain if you want. I'm just tired of feeling like getting a BJ or having my girlfriend be interested in touching my penis is some dirty thing, when I do the same thing to her every time. She's given me a bj maybe 2 times in our entire relationship.
Whenever I bring it up she just gets quiet, and won't say a word to me. Then she'll make an attempt for a day or two and then it's back to normal. She's said she'll try giving me a BJ again a month ago, but every time I ask it's not today. I'm patient with her, and I know no one owes me any sex act, but I think it's selfish. I'm starting to feel like she just doesn't care. And I don't want to be with someone forever who doesn't even want to try to have an active sex life.

Infidelity: Last year in April I was in town visiting her. At this point we lived about 45 minutes apart, and mostly saw each other on the weekend. While she was at work I needed to send an email so I went to outlook and her account was logged in, and there were multiple emails from OkCupid.
Long story short I kept looking and found that she had a profile on the website. To paraphrase, it said "I'm in a long distance thing and I'm looking for someone local to have sex with.". I immediately tried calling her about it. As I was looking she deleted the account and the emails. All I saw was a long chain message between her and some dude that I didn't get to read.
She claims she didn't follow through on anything. After a while I decided to stay. I don't know if I trust that she didn't do anything, especially because she was so nonchalant about her friends cheating. For a long time I didn't think about it but after we moved in together at the beginning of the year it's been eating at me, especially since she doesn't seem too gassed about sex these days. Rarely sometimes after I get rejected or something happens I feel like I should've left then, but I don't know. We have really good times together and I care about her.

Time Spent Together: She doesn't want to do anything after work with me, unless it's something she initiated. Earlier this year we moved in together, which means that I live 1 hour away from work. This has taken a HUGE toll on me that I didn't really expect. I wake up at 5am to get to work, get home at 5pm, usually in bed by 9:30. Before I moved I woke up at 6:45am, got home at 4 and went to bed at 11. I feel like I don't have time for anything during the week, but that's beside the point.
I've tried to get her to share some of my hobbies, play a game with me after work, watch an episode of a tv show, trying practicing an instrument with me or something but she doesn't want to do anything. When she comes home from work, she usually eats dinner (that I cook 90% of the time) and then sits in front of the TV on her laptop. This isn't to say she doesn't do stuff, she cleans more than I do and has some hobbies, she just doesn't seem to put any importance on spending time together at home.I think it would be nice if we could watch a show or play a game together more than once in a blue moon. She's just not for it unless it's Game of Thrones, which is over for now so we don't do anything.

General Stuff: It just seems like my opinion doesn't matter a lot of the time. Earlier this year she wanted another cat. She already had two, I'm asthmatic, allergic to cats, and our lease only allows one cat (when we moved in she marked 1 cat instead of two). I get around this by having a cat free room and 3 air filters, but I still need to use my inhaler 2 times a week even though I get allergy shots and work out all the time. She would go to the humane society and cuddle cats and send me pictures asking if she could take one home. When I would tell her it's a bad idea, she would just not talk to me for a week. Eventually I relented when she bought her family to our house and she got the cat. My allergies are worse than ever now, and on long weekends when I'm home it gets really bad. But she had to have her cat, even though it could get us evicted.
She didn't remember our dating anniversary for the past two years, even though I mentioned it 2 days beforehand both times. She also half asses my birthday since it's right after Christmas. I don't expect much, but a card or a word or a sweet would be nice on our anniversary. When she was opening her gift 3 weeks ago she just said she forgot (which I don't see how it's possible since I told her about it twice over the 3 days leading up to it) and that she would take me out to dinner. That barely even feels like a gift seeing as I pay for dinner and MAKE dinner almost every night. It just feels thoughtless. Last year she forgot and regifted me a gift card her grandmother gave her and I used it to buy us dinner that night.

As awful as all these things seem I feel like we could work through them if she would just talk to me. But once I bring up that I'm unhappy about something she goes silent or starts crying and it turns into me comforting her. I've been feeling these feelings for almost a month now and I just don't know what to do. Sometimes I feel like I'm trying to talk myself out of the relationship, but she's pushing me to propose this year. My father died last Thanksgiving, I don't have a lot of savings for like a ring or a wedding, and I dunno. I just want to talk about these things and I'm tired of being stonewalled. I love her and want to stay with her and work through these problems, but I don't even know how to bring them up without dumping an avalanche on her.
tl;dr: Issues with sex, attention in relationship. How to address my issues with my relationship with GF, without wrecking said relationship? Am I an idiot for trying?
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